I have been married for almost a year. I was a virgin before then. Ever since the honeymoon sex has been a problem for us - it is very painful. We only have had "real sex" twice without too much pain. I dont know if we haven't stretched the vaginal walls out enough. I can usually only insert one finger. I can insert two fingers when I am really aroused but there is a long thick piece of skin in the middle almost as long as my fingers. This does not sound like a septate hymen, but again, I am not sure. We don't have health insurance so I can't afford to go to the doctors. Does anyone know what this might be? Please - this has been causing issues in our marriage as sex can be very painful. Thank you.
Mattie, I am sorry to hear about your problems. A septate hymen is only at the entrance of the vagina. You also get a septate vagina where there is a wall down the middle of your vagina. So it is almost like having 2 vaginas. Is this what you are talking about?
Do you have a clinic or community health center close by where you can see a doctor? It is important to have it looked out. Even if you have to make special arrangements for paying the doctor. Most doctors will also see you at a lower rate if you do not have insurance and explain your situation.
After a year of hardly being able to have sex, it will most definitely cause problems for your relationship. It will not just go away by itself. It is anyways important for you to have a gynecological checkup. It does not sound like a ObGyn ever saw you?
I have this problem too with sex and when i went to the docs about it they told me it was cysts on my ovaries, then they done an external scan found a cyst on my ovary 3 cm big and i went back after a few weeks for an internal scan and they didnt find the cyst, then i went to the gyne and he put me on tablets incase there was an infection in my womb, still in great pain was called back and they done another internal scan this time they found fluid build up in my womb, then they said it could be endometriosis, and arranged a surgery date to have that larscopy done (basically a camera having a look around) they still found nothing, it took me 5 weeks to heal after it and â¬ 100's and â¬ 100's in medical expenditures and nothing found.. This problem first started when i had sex with my first serious bf (although not first time having sex) and nearly 4 years later i still have pain when having sex different partners too.. So i hope you found my tale useful and i hope you find a cure and if you do TELL ME!!!
I can relate to Susan862003, but I have seen doctors and all they have given me is a cream to use it does not work I still am in extreme pain and bleed. I dread having sex it hurts so bad. My husband can't even insert his penis in. we have tried with so many different creams. This happened after my hysterectomy. I enjoyed intercourse before now I want o run we he wants to have fun.