Hi..I'm in my early 40's. For the last several years sex has been pretty painful even with KY. I have always enjoyed it and looked forward to it but since it has started to hurt, I want to do it but am scared because of the pain. I usually end up masturbating. I had a hyterectomy about four years ago but the problem was there before that. I take biodenticals off and on. In the off time I take OTC Remfemin. I usually have a few drops of blood on my underwear after sex. Could I have vaginal tears? I had a baby that weighed over 10 lbs(17 yrs ago). There just doesn't feel like there is as much room in there as there used to be. Pelvic exams with the speculums just about kill me. I've explained it to my gyn but she isn't listening. The reason I'm writing...I was married for 20 years to a very understanding and loving husband. We figured out ways to make it work but usually it wasn'y full blown intercourse because of the pain. He was killed in an accident. So I'm now on the verge of a possibility of a new relationship. I need to figure out what's wrong and get it fixed. Please help.
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The dryness and atrophy of vagina could be the cause for the discomfort with intercourse and for the bleeding after intercourse. These symptoms also suggest possibility of infections and cervical erosion or cancer. Consider meeting your gynecologist or another gynecologist to discuss your symptoms and for a check to decide on getting started on HRT (hormonal replacement therapy) to help with your symptoms and to lead a normal sexual life.
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