I gave birth this past March and while the baby was healthy, I feel like I will never be the same. I had a 2nd degree perineal tear that was stitched up badly (IMO) I feel like my vagina has been sewn shut. Sex is entirely out of the question. I have attempted it once in the 9 months since she was born, and it was excrutiating. I revisited my OBGYN to discuss this and she basically told me it was all in my head and suggested perineal massage and a psychiatrist. This angered me, and I haven't gone back.
I know I am very different down there. There is a lot of scar tissue around the opening of my vagina and my vagina is much tighter. Do all women with tears have this change in their anatomy, and if so, how in the world are they able to get used to it?
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It is possible that the scarring has tightened the vaginal opening. This coupled with what may be a lingering infection is causing pain during penetration.
If this gynecologist is not listening, go to another one or a sex therapist. You may need vaginal dilators to slowly dilate the opening until sex is comfortable. Also, your partner can help you in this with slowly increasing the depth of penetration until full penetration happens without pain. Hope this helps. Take care!
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