I hope I don't hear that it's psychological, because believe me, I'm ready and willing - if only my anatomy agreed!
I had PID many years ago. Fallopian tubes are still wrapped around ovaries. MD performing laparoscopy closed me back up bec. It was too adnexed (glued). Thing is, that's abdominal; this isn't.
We've been married for over 20 years, very comfortable together in that department. He *is* a bit wide, and I don't know if somehow that's suddenly affecting the situation, tho I don't see how it could.
Anyway, about 2 years ago he went to penetrate me and it felt uncomfortable. We tried everything: switching positions, lubricant, etc. It did not appear to be related. It felt more like there was a sore on the outer part of the vagina, where the urethra is.
I went to the GYN to see if something was there that we couldn't see, but she said no. So here we are, 2 years later, with no relief. From time to time we've tried, but it always hurts.
My only other theory is that "maybe" I'm having a spasm at the urethra? After all, it's right at the opening, too. Could that be it? If so, what can be done about it?
We've tried creams to numb the area, but it only seemed to affect him (very little).
While sex might not be everything, it's definitely important in a marriage, especially when it's gone! I really want the opportunity to make love with my husband again. I'd love to hear any advice I can get.
Thanks,
Jennifer
PS It's late and I'm very sleepy, so I hope this makes sense!