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Q: Painful intercourse and lack of lubrication

asked by: DoctorQuestion on February 9th, 2009

My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months now. We were both virgins before we began sleeping together.
In the beginning we were having sex 7 or 8 times a night. This felt fine and we both enjoyed it. Last year after we had been together just a month I became very poorly.
Since I got better and we've started having sex again it seems to really hurt me. It's almost as if his penis has got bigger and is 'ripping' my vagina. It also feels like burning. I don't understand if this is related to my previous illness or if this is being caused by something else.
I can't have any STIs as we were both virgins and have only slept with each other. We have both read the forum and found an article on a similar issue and all it said was make sure that I was 'wet' enough and that I was in 'the mood'.
I normally am when we decide to but when it comes to penetration I find myself getting worked up fearing it's going to hurt, which is probably causing it to hurt even more.
He is 21. I'm 18. HELP!

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Dr. Goce Aleksovski , MD

replied on February 10th, 2009

Sexual Health - Women Answer A5733

The lubrication during intercourse is mostly done by the female. The nervous system usually affects the lubrication. Stress (after illness) or being afraid of future intercourse might make it difficult for the female to lubricate enough. You might want to use different relaxation techniques, as well as to ask your boyfriend for longer foreplay. Having him being gentler, instead of rushing might turn out to be helpful. In the end, you might want to visit a sex therapist and try to find a solution to the problem.

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