I went to my OBGYN a couple of days ago. They ended up needing to do a uterine biopsy. The only Doctor that was in is one that I do not usually see because of his abrasive and brusque bedside manner. For example, during a past encounter, he was the on on-call doctor on evening at the hospital and I was having pre-term labor and bleeding. The nurses were hurting me so bad trying to reach my cervix I was almost crying (my cervix is further back and upwards than most) because they were crushing their knuckles into my labia so hard they left bruises. He came in to do the check and proceeded to chew me out for being "so tense", telling me it was my fault that it was so difficult and I needed to "relax". Mind you, I never moved my lower body the entire time anyone was working on me.
The next day the doctor I do like came in and was very gentle with me and explained about my cervix being a little out of place and hard to reach given that my vagina can't even really accommodate 2 fingers either. HUGE difference!!
Anyway, during my biopsy, this doctor (the abrasive and seemingly insensitive one)tells the nurse he needs to "grab my cervix" (whatever that means) and she handed him a long pair of clamps. I kid you not, the force with which he jabbed those things into me made me holler and I could barely breath until he took them off (and I am the kind of person who didn't even flinch when I got my epidural before my c-section), It felt like a knife was shoved into me. When he took the clamp off, I was bleeding so bad from my cervix that it took him 10 minutes, several sponges, and two different cauterizing agents to finally get it under control. Needless to say I am still very uncomfortable, especially since the cauterizing stuff has swelled up and dried out my vagina so bad that I feel like it's full of salt.
Do I have a right to be angry about this? Is this how all biopsies happen? Was he being too rough or is this normal procedure? Why does he seem like he has absolutely no compassion or regard for his patient's comfort?
I am afraid to ask to see my regular doctor for my return appointment (which this doctor scheduled on his work day) because I don't want to cause any inter-office tension. Do I have to follow up with him because he saw me this time and did the tests? Will they get angry at me if I demand to see the "Nice" doctor instead??
They may get angry with you but this should not stop you from voicing your preference. A doctor, though he/she may have an advanced degree and a more prominent status, is every bit as much a server as a mechanic. You get to pick and choose who you want to see. If you are not comfortable with the other doctor you have the right to request that you only be seen by the doctor of your choice.
I went to the gynecologist for the first time to get on birth control. I was a virgin but thought the guy I was seeing would be 'the one.' The doctor used a speculum on me and was very rough. I was in pain and had cramps for two days after the visit. The next gynecologist I went to was much more sensitive and gentle with me; she didn't even use a speculum on me for my exam. That first doctor will never get the opportunity to harm me again. If I had an appointment and he walked in the room, I would get up and leave!