So last night, my boyfriend fingered me for the first time. He had fingered girls before, and he said it would feel good. But when he started to finger me, it hurt REALLY bad. He was being sort of rough, so that might be why it hurt so much. And, he bit me at one point. :p After a while, I started bleeding, and he thought he popped my cherry. I didn't feel anything pop, so I'm not sure. When I went home, I was still in pain and i noticed my clitoris was swollen and red. I wasn't bleeding anymore, but it hurt to even touch it. The pain and swelling went away after a couple hours, and now, 24 hours later, I'm fine. Basically, I want to know if the pain is normal, and if he really popped my cherry?
Ashamarie, your genitals are very delicate. Friction is the enemy of your vagina, inner lips and clitoris. It is clear that this boy did not appreciate how to treat you. It is your responsibility to tell him what to do, where to rub, how hard and how fast. You know from masturbation what feels good. When you get aroused your pain threshold skyrockets, so you need to be extra careful. You also need to make sure you are wet at all times.
Your 'cherry' is an elastic, fleshy ring of mucus membrane around the outside of the entrance to your vagina. Popping it is just an expression. It does not really snap or pop. It tears to the vaginal wall causing a V shaped notch. It is possible that he damaged it. If preserving your hymen is important, you should keep his fingers out of your vagina. Most (if not all) pleasure will come from your clitoris.
Yeah it sounds like he was too rough.
And I know what you mean- a couple months ago my boyfriend fingered me(He's fingered other girls too) and it hurt because he was too rough, and he has harder hands than I do and bigger and stronger fingers. So I was sore for a while.
I think it's just natural- especially for the first time cause another girl they did might've- for some reason- liked it rough?
if you aren't aroused prior to being touched it will not be comfortable. it might even hurt. you need to be excited for you body to create lubrication in your vagina to make things feel better. Most women do not have orgasms from vaginal stimulation. Some women never have a "cherry"(actually called a hymen). It is different for different people. you can actually break your hymen doing nonsexual activity depending on how much of one you have. I broke mine riding a bicycle. your clitoris is how you receive the majority of sexual pleasure. this is delicate of course, because it is a bundle of nerves. He may be misinformed about how women experience pleasure. many men are. If he bit your clitoris then it is likely. When a man fingers you for your pleasure, you can try to direct him to do so the way you masturbate. when approaching the clitoris he should only be using his tongue during oral sex, not teeth, unless you ask otherwise. if you would like you can PM me if you have any questions you wouldn't like to post online. im a female, not a pervert. I am actually in the process of becoming a sexual therapist which is essentially a person who helps others learn about their bodies and sexual health in the context of relationships. Most people are severely undereducated in these personal matters.
my other post will probably pop up in a moment. it had my email so it probably got flagged. Your clitoris is sensitive and i wouldn't recommend using teeth at all during oral sex. you need to be excited prior to 'fingering' in order to be lubricated (wet) so you can enjoy the experience. Most women don't feel a great deal of pleasure from the insertion into the vagina. it is a myth. You will receive the most pleasure from your clitoris (which is essentially a bundle of nerves). I would recommend NO TEETH. I would advise you to show him the way you masturbate and guide him to manipulate you similarly. He is misguided on how to please women. Most grown men are. as for your hymen (the cherry). That is different for every woman. Some women don't even naturally have one. It can be entirely closed like a sheet across your inner vagina, have a small opening, be partially opened, mostly opened, or not even be there. You can damage your hymen doing a dumber of things non sex related. I damaged mine riding a bicycle. You can break it while exercising. It is not any more important than you think it is.
i agree wit princezz.. he does nt know at all wat he was doing.. wen i was younger i dated a guy for 3 yrs n lost my virginity to him n he was horrible.. i love rough sex bt wen a guy knows how to make it feel good.. n honestly he just dk wat he was doing.. like the other lady lady said ur goods r very sensitive so if he put it in while ur dry tht alone will hurt