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Everytime me and my boyfriend try to have sex it really hurts. Penetration is the worst and sometimes we just give up because he can't get it up me. If we manage to get past that then actual sex still really hurts. We have tryed lube and that also doesn't help. Is there something seriously wrong with me?
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replied August 11th, 2009
Hi, I have the same issue, but i havent managed actual sex yet. I hope You get the answer you were looking for. and if its any concellation your not alone facing this issue!
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replied August 11th, 2009
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Unfortunately you do not say if it hurts when you use your finger or if this is only a problem with this boyfriend.

Some women are just very tight and some men are very wide. If you add these two together, it makes for painful sex.

The condition is often caused by vaginismus - a tightening of the outer third of the vagina. If this is indeed what is wrong, there are exercise kits available that can stretch the vagina. It does not stretch it in a bad way but it allows the muscles to build up the flexibility to allow the penis in. Search for “vaginismus” and/or "vaginal dilators" to get more information. It consists of a set of vaginal inserts that increase in size. Over time you insert bigger and bigger ones to exercise the vaginal muscles.

An obvious first stop is to see your OB/GYN. They can make sure that everything is well formed and that there is no infection. They can also prescribe vaginal dilators if you want to claim that from your insurance.
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replied August 11th, 2009
Thanks for the replys.
Susan - Yes it also hurts sometimes when using fingers and recently even insertation of tampons can be painful. I never used to suffer from this pain. Also no it is not just this boyfriend, me and my ex split up over this problem.
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replied August 25th, 2009
I would have to agree with Susan, the best step for you to take would be to see your OB/GYN. Knowing the ins and outs of whats going on would be the best solution. there's no point feeling bad and worrying about something before you even know what the real reason might be. =)
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