overreaction issues

i sometimes have very bad overreaction issues with people in my life more so my husband, and i dont know why i do that, i do it and feel i have a good reason for doing it and then feel really bad after its done, then everyone is feeling bad, i get hurt and upset during the process and feels the person im talking to is not understanding my point and sometimes the issue is soo small yet i feel ignored, hurt or misunderstood which cause the overreaction, for example: i did something that was a legit mistake and i was talking to my husband about it as if he would be understanding towards me or just basically feeling it with me but all he could say is " dont let your curiosity get u into trouble" and i wasnt trying to do what i did it was a mistake and he just shot me down with that kind of comment cause i thought he knew it was a mistake, guess he thought i was trying to be nosey or something and i wasnt. Another example: my husband is away right now and so i sent him a very sweet email concerning his job that is already a big strain on our marriage anyway, but i sent him a email telling him im proud of him and that he was my hero and that i thank him for just doing what hes doing to put food on the table and that i love him and so on and so he didnt respond or anything and so when he did email back late, i asked him about the email he said he did see it early that day and he just didnt get deep into it" well i was so upset and because it took all day until late night for him to contact me and for him to tell me that, i figured he could have just said something like thank u or something to let me know he got it or act like he cares, i really do overreact with him on alot of issues and i scream, i yell, i slam doors, etc.... i love my husband and i dont want to run him out of my life, what should i do about this problem i deal with so often?, i even sometimes jump to conclusion and sware i know what i heard and felt and it causes a big problem, i need help! people have told me i overreact and that i jump to conclusions, sometimes i do be right and sometimes i can be wrong. can u please me be better so i can have a peacefull marriage with my husband?