Hi, im a 19 year old, healthy male. I work out at the gym 2-3 times a week, exercise an average amount and eat healthly, i weight a normal weight for my height (6"3) and am worried about my penis. When i masturbate by myself my penis wont always get hard, and when it does, it only remains hard for a couple of minutes, i do ejaculate when i masturbate but my penis is usually 'half hard'. When my partner masturbates me, the same thins happens, i usually am hard at some point for 2-3 minutes, but will go to the semi-hard state eventually. When we have sex, i am not nervous about it at all, however the same thing happens, i can enter her for 5 mins, but then go soft and cant continue. This 'going soft' doesnt occur near ejaculation, i am not nervous and am not on any medication. I read somewhere it could be due to a low bioelectric energy in the parasympathetic sexual nerve, due to over masturbation in adolescence, which i though may be the case as i did masturbate a lot when younger.
Hi there, thank you for posting your question on Ehealthforum. This is not intended as a substitute to visiting your own doctor.
I get the sense that you are anxious to avoid the label 'performance anxiety' as an explanation for your mild erectile dysfunction. The trouble with that is we then have to come up with alternative explanation like say venous leak. But venous leak would account for less that 1% of ED in your age group.
Have yourself checked out for type 2 diabetes. If that is OK then I suggest you ware the Performance Anxiety label even if your far from convinced that it fits.Not feeling nervous does not rule performance anxiety. It is not so much nervousness as intruding thoughts about the state of play "down below."
I think you have developed a degree of erectile dysfunction brought on by Performance Anxiety or intruding thoughts or watching yourself trying to maintain an erection. You have three choices now. You can do any one or all of them.
(1) Do nothing and wait for it to right itself. Remember, most erectile dysfunction goes away of its own accord eventually.
(2) Go to a doctor and get a prescription for something like Cialis 20mg. This should kick-start the system for you such that you quickly regain your confidence.
(3) Go to a Sex Councillor and learn how to get round Performance Anxiety through behavioural techniques. These typically involve stop/start erection management and eventually having intercourse with the lady on top doing all the work while you just lie there doing nothing. If you are not expected to perform then you cannot have any performance anxiety. A sense of humour too of course always helps.
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