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I was just wondering ...
how many women actually let their partner finish in their mouth during oral sex?

and if so do u swallow?


And do u feel degraded doing that?
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replied July 22nd, 2008
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Yes to everything but the last.
No, I don't feel like it's degrading, especially since my ex had told me that I didn't have to and he'd understand if I didn't. That way I know that if I didn't want to do it, then I didn't have to.

If it's not something you feel comfortable doing then you don't have to. I did it first to try it, and I know he liked that I did it and I was never really bothered by it.

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replied July 22nd, 2008
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-Yes, I want him to finish in my mouth
-Yes, I swallow
-No, I don't feel degraded

When I started going down on my boyfriend, he wouldn't allow me to stay down there long enough. He was concerned for me...he didn't want me to feel like he was forcing me to do anything. So, by his pleading...he didn't ejaculate in my mouth for awhile.

Until I told him I wanted to. Clean up is much more easy, and he gets even more turned on when I do that. He's more likely to keep fooling around for awhile with me if I let him ejaculate in my mouth.

Yeah...don't do anything you don't want to do. And, if you're not comfortable talking about it with your partner, that leads me to believe you aren't ready to start/continue doing that act.
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replied July 22nd, 2008
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i have talked to my bf about it. and first he said its juts for pleasure, but after i told him i think its soo degrading he said. I love u and i will never make u do wat u dont want to do. but it still bothers me . I just cant like take it in that he wanted to do that to me. I feel like he thinks im a hoe if he wants me to do that. I dont know how to explain it. I just cant understand why you WOULDNT feel degraded if he ejaculated in ur mouth?

Guys always brag about sex, and just how they say it makes me feel this way. And in pornos especially they make it soooo degrading. IDK...i wish i didnt feel this way....but i do. I feel like its such a degrading act. I feel like the guy makes u his !**@! if he does that....no offense to anyone, just how i feel.


I am just trying to get girls opinions and maybe make myself ok with it....im just trying to understand how girls wouldnt feel degraded and why not?
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replied July 22nd, 2008
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I guess it's how you look at it.
I think that its just as intimate of an act as sex. I'm expressing my love. Not him expressing his dominance. And I always felt like I was the one in charge when I was giving oral sex anyways, I was never his "health forum" Wink

I never felt dirty afterwards and I got to sit and cuddle with him rather than scrammble for a tissue or sprint to the nearest sink.
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replied July 22nd, 2008
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idk i dont really see it from your point of view. U can get tissues and then cuddle, not a big deal to me. To me its him expressing his dominance and marking you basically and being the big man who can cum in ur mouth...just very disrespectful to me. Its like a girl pissing in the guys mouth to me
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replied July 22nd, 2008
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and to me sex and having guy cum in ur mouth are completely different. Sex you are both in control, and both enjoying it. Cuming in ur mouth u dont enjoy it ur not exactly in control...u have a penis in ur mouth ... so ugh to me. Idk i just dont like it.....
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replied July 22nd, 2008
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I wouldnt feel degraded about that at all...yes in pornos it looks degrading but...pretty much everything in porno is somewhat degrading..its about screwing..thats it..theres no intimacy there at all...

i dont understand how its degrading? does your boyfriend not do things for you down there...? its not like he's forcing you to do anything....i WANT to make my boyfriend feel good and please him and I dont feel forced to do anything I dont want to in any way..he gets it bc I give it..and he loves it Smile
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replied July 22nd, 2008
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There are alot of women who hate it and feel degraded. Yeah my bf gives me oral, because he likes it and its not like i have stream of semen shooting out into his mouth ...Its just sooooo degrading to me so disrespectful. And i cant understand why any guy who loves his gf would want to do that to her
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replied July 22nd, 2008
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its really not that big of a deal...you think having him have the best orgasm in your mouth and knowing you did it for him is degrading? i mean i understand how you would think bc of the porno thing it is but like i said earlier..in my opinion pretty much everything about porno is degrading...

but being able to make the guy you love feel that good...idk...i just dont see him looking at me and being like "wow...youre trashy"....unless you gave him a bj on the first date...but my boyfriend and i have been together over 2 years...so to him i'm sure hes thinking "wow..that was great...you're amazing i love you" haha...how long have you two been dating?
obviously he respects you from what his response was when you told him what you thought of it...and i'm sure if he knew you thought it were degradinig he would have never asked for it

My boyfriend has(when intoxicated) asked for a 3some with me and another guy...THAT is degrading to me..i guess we all have our boundaries...and i've made it clear that while with me its something he'll just have to live without..he loves me..and got over it...so if it bothers you that much dont worry about it..he's expressed that he doesn't want to make you do anything you dont want to
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replied July 22nd, 2008
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to me a threesome is my fantasy and is not degrading. and we have been together for almost two years. I just feel like hes being dominant and disrespectful if he cums in my mouth....i would probably start crying if he did that. IDk how to explain it, but to me that is the most degrading thing about sex


and its not about what he thinks...its about wat i thihk. I think he can have an amazing orgasm without cuming in my mouth.
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replied July 22nd, 2008
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well we all have our opinions like i said...if thats something youre not ok with then its something he'll have to get over and it sounds like he doesn't have a problem with it...but you did ask for the opinions of others..and i was just saying what my boyfriend thought of it..trying to give you a guys point of view since you asked if we thought it was trashy
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replied July 22nd, 2008
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but dont u honestly feel like a hooker doing that? i cant understand that....and how can u stand the taste? i just dont understand why the guy that loves u would do that to u
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replied July 22nd, 2008
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well..the way you feel about this is how I feel about the threesome thing...
no i dont feel like a hooker at all..bc i'm not forced to do it..sometimes I dont want to..and i dont...I give it when I want to...he doesn't DO anything to me..i'm doing it to him haha...and if I dont mind it..why the heck would he object?
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replied July 22nd, 2008
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It's not a degrading act. If you feel it's degrading, then that's your opinion. We have a lot of girls who've already responded saying that yes, they do swallow and they enjoy it. It makes my boyfriend feel amazing and I love being able to do that for him. You're choosing to compare it to something from a porno. In pornos, sex is degrading yet you don't view it that way. Choosing to swallow during oral is choosing to accept your boyfriend completely even *if* he doesn't taste good. And the taste isn't so bad, probably not much worse than it is down there for women. Why don't you try thinking of it as he's not doing it to you, you're doing it for him. Just like you choose to give him oral sex in the first place, or he chooses to go down on you. It's a choice.
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replied July 22nd, 2008
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Why are you grilling the people about a guy ejaculating in their mouths? We do it because we want to, you don't because you don't. End of story.

You're asking people why they don't feel like hookers when they choose this. THAT is degrading. Please, don't put thoughts/words into other peoples' mouths.

You can have your views...but don't offend others about theirs.
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replied July 23rd, 2008
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Sydney123456 wrote:
Why are you grilling the people about a guy ejaculating in their mouths? We do it because we want to, you don't because you don't. End of story.

You're asking people why they don't feel like hookers when they choose this. THAT is degrading. Please, don't put thoughts/words into other peoples' mouths.

You can have your views...but don't offend others about theirs.


Thank you...its like we give our opinion(bc we were asked mind you) and then get shamed for it... Rolling Eyes
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replied July 23rd, 2008
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I don't feel like it's degrading, actually I feel like I have the ultimate control at that point. I mean, think about it- his most sensitive part is in your mouth.. all you have to do is bite down lol. And you are the one in control and giving him an orgasm. Total power trip.

Yeah, if he was holding my head that would bug me, if he was masturbating while I just stood there with my mouth open (like in porn) that would bug me.... but that's not how I do it. When I do it, I'm in control, and I like him to cum in my mouth because it feels good to him that way.
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replied July 23rd, 2008
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Each to their own i guess, but to me a threesome is way more degrading than having semen in your mouth. I don't mind either way, i'll swallow if i feel like it and i won't swallow if i don't feel like it.
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replied July 23rd, 2008
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i feel like a threesome is degrading as well..i'd much rather have my guy go in my mouth than another dudes "tool"(God only knows where its been) inside of me pumpin away..but...thats my opinion anyway...if you like it...thats your business
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