One of those kids that hasn't had a real relationship Posted: 05-04-08 15:40pm
Hi I'm 18, and I have yet to have a real
girlfriend. It's not the fact that I
haven't know girls, it's the fact that I
use to be addicted to just haning out with
friends, and playing video games, mostly
the video game part. That has changed
recently when I met this girl at work, I
swear she's changed what I thought about
what kind of person I've wanted to be. I
asked her out a month ago and she said
yes, but we have yet to go out...my mom
(who works with us) stupidly told her she
would tell me employees coulnd't
date...and she said she wanted to. But
she always sends out these vibes, with the
ways he looks at me, we make fun of each
other a lot, and I just generally feel
this connection. I even sent her this
message on AIM about a week ago, telling
her how I felt, and she said "your a turd"
and "hehe", I couldn't respond because i
was afk, but it seemed like a weird
response (keep in my mind she's 19). Well
this thursday we didn't talk about it at
all and went on as our usual selves. The
thing is because I think she doesn't like
me, even though she said YES to going out
and gave me a REAL number, I kind of gave
up. I swear I try to be next to her, then
I try to show I have no interest, but it
doesn't work, I can't forget her...she
just runs through my head. She's one of
those girls that is always funny, and
she's just someone I'd like to get to
know, but she's never given me the chance.
I feel like there could be something, but
the weird part is we'll do all that stuff
during work, then at the end of the day
it's like nothing happened. One time when
we were done with work she was on ehr
phone, and I said bye to her and she was
one foot away from me and didn't say a
thing, and she even looked at me...kind of
made me feel down. I even know her mom
and dad because we work together, and they
are just like her...cool. I don't know
what to do anymore, because I feel so
akward around her, we can talk sometimes,
then others we just sit there. Keep in
mind she's beautiful, and I'm meh, I've
lost about 20 pounds in the last month so
I look A LOT better, but still it seems
like maybe I'm just not in her league.
I guess the hardest part of this is
figuring out why she would say yes to
going out with me and now it's a month
later and nothing has yet to happen. I
just wish I could figure it out, any help?
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Maddie34
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Posted: 05-04-08 21:17pm
So did you make plans to go out after you
asked her out? You asked her out, so I
think you should have made the plans as to
when, where, and what you do.
The two of you need to do something
outside of work.
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Rosie H
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Posted: 05-05-08 12:18pm
yeah I agree did you make plans after she
said yes? Cause if you said ok cool then
left it at that she could be thinking that
you might not want to go out that much.
Maybe she is confused too. I think you
should just ask her straight up.
Maybe theres a new movie coming out or a
restruarant close to work. Ask her one day
after work if she would like to have
dinner and a movie? I know its hard to
just ask like that, but if she has already
said yes then she has interest in you. She
is probably just waiting and wanting you
to make the next move.
At least thats from a womens point of
view.
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Nick112211
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Joined: 04 May 2008 Posts: 2
Posted: 05-05-08 17:18pm
Well yeah I had called her a couple of
times and she said she "didn't get a
message", but yeah that doesn't matter
now. I didn't work this sunday and
apparently she told my mom to make sure I
knew we were just friends, because she had
a BF. At first I was like.......UMMMM
WHAT? I mean she did say yes to going on
a date, but maybe she had met him right
after I asked her out. But yeah I guess
it's fine, I've changed from my old self
really, and a lot more heads have been
turning my way ! But yeah, it does
feel weird to go through all of this to be
shot down, I'm fine with it, she's a cool
person and I see nothing wrong with being
friends. I think the reason I feel down
atm is because really she's the first
person to say yes to me (was always too
shy to ask ppl out), and trust me on this,
she is amazingly beautiful, in every
aspect. I'll get over it, but I guess I
need to aim wayyy lower to really get any
bits...haha.