One minute he's telling me off ...

I belive my boyfriend is bipolar or has boderline personality disorder. He is abusive, it was just verbal until a couple of weeks ago. He slapped me. We went and saw a counlsor and he confirmed how abusive he was. He wanted him to come for sesssions, he was beat as a child by his father. He stopped smoking pot 3 months ago but has done that and alcohol all his life. He takes no responsibilty for his actions. He is degrading and insults me. He breaks up all the time and then wants to get back togeather. He\'s extremly sensitive and emotional. He does not use logic to base decisions on but emotion. Ofcourse he can also be sweet and wonderful. At this point we are breaking up and I am moving out. I told him if he ever hit me again I would put him in jail. So right now he is very afraid of that. He won\'t work on himself. He thinks it\'s all my fault. How do I deal with him? One minute he\'s telling me off the other night and the next minute wants to know if I love him?? Please help.