Well... this is my story. I'm a 19 year old male college student that has never had a relationship. Sure I've had plenty of flings and I have kissed girls but I never had that special someone. Come to think of it I've never kissed a girl I had feelings for. And, not regrettably I am still a virgin. Why don't I regret it? Well, If determined I don't think I'd have much of a problem getting laid but I don't want to get laid or even have sex. I want to make love. I want to fall in love. I've questioned my lack of a girlfriend over the years, I've asked myself If I am ugly and unattractive however when ever I look at myself in the mirror I recognize i'm not the best looking guy in the world but I honestly can't consider myself ugly or unattractive. Many girls in the past have said i'm very cute, so it couldn't be my looks that are the problem. Then I wondered if it was my personality. I am shy in the beginning but give me time and I will open up, I listen, and I'll do just about anything for a friend. I make sure I am there for people when needed and I care. I get comments on how I dress, how intelligent I am, and how thankful my friends are for being there for them (majority are women).
Perhaps I am wanting to fall in love prematurely? I'm strange I suppose, I'm that guy who fantasizes about having that long lasting relationship with the girl you love, your wife, your wedding, your children, etc... Maybe I am just being impatient and need to wait longer for it all to happen?
Diligo, I am in the exact same boat as you. I live in Chicago and haven't had any type of relationship with a woman since 2003, and I am 30 years old. I have autism/asperger's syndrome and was even recently diagnosed with depression. To hurt me even farther in the next few years, I used to IM other singles on Match and Yahoo Personals and nobody would even reply, and worse still, I even discovered that pretty much the whole state of Illinois is an endless social and dating desert, and that the only thing that ever matters to Illinois women is money. And then when I went on a series of trips to Florida, I just totally fit in; even skinny, young, and beautiful women were sweet and friendly with me, and that really lifted my spirits higher than a space shuttle! Florida women were so sweet to me that I actually broke down and cried on the plane back to Chicago!
Basically, it has gotten so bad in Illinois that I have totally given up on Illinois women and have even been driven by further heartbreaks, especially in Chicago's middle and outer suburbs, to walking in a big, wide circle around all women in Illinois whenever I go out in public. And I have accepted the truth that I will never find a girlfriend until I first move to Florida.