I have been friends with a guy for a year and now in a relationship with a guy for about 2 months. Within the first week he told me he was diagnosed with bipolar disorder a couple years ago and stopped taking medication due to side effects. He currently is not taking any medications and is not seeing any therapist.

During the past 2 weeks so much has been happening. There have been such fluctuations in his mood. He has not been sleeping so much, has become more agitated and very paranoid/delusional.

One night he called me and left several messages through the internet for me. Naturally I did not answer, I was asleep. But some of the messages said: "WHAT EVER YOU ARE DOING RIGHT NOW ---YOU BETTER STOP
IF YOU VALUE ANY FUTURE YOU HAVE", "i sware to god if you dont answer your phone tonight or before i goto sleep i might regret my actions", "ok never mind i got a chance to have a long talk with a very close friend if you still feel like talking to me after you read these caca messages then call me" and "yeah i really regret typing out messages number 5 6 7 and maybe 8". Later that week I recieved an email of an AIM conversation my boyfriend had with a friend of a friend, saying he was depressed and just might kill himself, he thought I was with some other guy beause I was not answering my phone- and if I was he would start a small war and destroy my house and car and he just might get a knife and slash someone's time. The next mornging his friend found out one of his tires was slashed. My boyfriend's friends saw a copy of this AIM message and confronted him about the slashed tire- but apparently timing does not match up and they think that my boyfriend did not slash them. But I don't know what I believe.

Later I talked to him about all the messages. I tried asking about them but he started making up stories and blaming others. So I gave up asking about them and just told him he was worrying me and I wanted him to get help. He said he noticed he was becoming more agitated and had made an appointment. I also said I just wanted to be friends, he needs to take care of himself and figure out his life. At the end of the hour conversation everything seemed to be alright.

During the next week things go worse- he was constantly calling my cell/home phone, texting me, emailing me and even personally dropped off two packages on my door step (one in the early morning and one late at night). These packages contained personal items and random papers ( a copy of his birth certificate, the periodic table and other very random print offs from the internet) car fresheners, mens shaver, his contacts/solution and other items. There was even a paper that said, "Don't get on my bad side" and was labelled to my family.

At this point I was done with the situation. His friends were going to meet with him to ask him to seek help and tell him I wanted him to stop talking to me. However he continued messaging/calling but I refused to pick up. He called claimming he needed to meet with me so he could get his personal items back for an appointment. So instead I packed up the items and gave them to his friend to give to my ex.

Later that day I found thoes items back on my doorstep along with a bottle of wine and his work badge despite my wishes for him to leave me alone. Text/phone messages continued- friendly as if he did nothing wrong. Then he called my house and I picked up and firmly asked him to stop contacting me, he tried to change the subject and ask where I was the previous night, but I reemphasized for him to stop contacting me and hung up.

Things continued on a flower delivery, fake facebook accounts to get ahold and write to my friends and text messages asking if I was still mad at him. It just kept going and going. He was calling my phone pretending to be a salesman and realestate agent. So much and too much has happened, he had crossed the line. Finally I called him and said, please stop calling, texting, visiting my house and leaving packages on my doorstep and contacting my friends if you do not I will get the police involved and get a restraining order. He said ok and be waiting for papers from my lawyer.

So much more has happened, I have been lied to and manipulated so much. I have thought about calling a mobile crisis crew but don't know if this is too extreme because he does have a doctors appointment next week and his best friend will be going with him to get a referral for a psychiatirist. I don't think he thinks much is wrong with him and I don't know how much he will tell the doctor. I think everything that is going on makes complete sense to him. I just don't know what to do, he does not have many firends left and his family is currently going through a very rough time. Has anyone been in a similar situation? At some points he seems so agitated and paranoid and at others he is very nice- either himself or mainuplating me. I don't know what to do!