No matter what you are in danger. Tell your husband of the problem, and then contact a laywer and the police. Maybe the police first to get a restraining order.
You are in danger. He is a stalker, and it is escalting. You need to move quickly. I hope you have not been waiting too long for a reply.
But, get as many people to help you, and inform them of your situation. The more people you can get to help you the better.
I fear for you. Your problem is serious. In the meatime do not play into this guy's game. He is not going to comitt suicide, and if he does, it is not your fault. Protect, you and your husband, and your family. Do not worry about him and his well being. Keep him away from you.