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Q: obsessed and fixated with body
asked by: tinyselfesteem on August 1st, 2008
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This is serious, I'm totally obsessed with my body, and I hate it.
I've lost weight and I'm in better shape than before (still not the best), yet before I wasn't as fixated as I am now!

I look at pics of models and especially men's magazines models and compare, and look at them and dwell because I don't look like that! I feel awful even when I see a normal girl down the street who is thin with big boobs and shiny long full hair!

I look nothing like that and I hate my body.

My boyfriend thinks I'm pretty. He thinks I'm sexy. But he thinks TV girls are hotter, he says that's how it is because they have to sell. He told me this because I asked, so it's my responsibility. And he says he doesn't care that I don't look like them. He says I'm being shallow, not him.

But I'm hurt and obsessed that I'm not the best, and that those girls are better than me. I know it's the inside that counts and that he loves me for my personality. But I'm obsessed that he thinks those girls are hotter, sexier and stuff. He doesn't understand how it affects me, because he doesn't let the media affect his self image, plus I don't like the Hollywood male stereotype, I like normal guys, like him. So I've neversaid anything like actors are hotter than him, because in my opinion, they're not.

He's also admitted to looking at that kind of girls because it's just entertainment and it's nice, but that he doesn't think anything about them and that I'm the one comparing and obsessing, not him.

I know I'm unhealthy and that I have to change my inside, because all I see everywhere on websites, tv, the beach, etc are butts and boobs all over the place! Everytime I see these bodies I feel awful about myself, because I don't look like that, because I'm too average and because my boyfriend would think they're hotter. How can I break this obsession? It's stressing me so much and therapy isn't working. I just look at myself and while yeah I look normal and I'm not hideous, I'm not typically hot or sexy, and my man thinks there are hotter girls.

I was always teased at school for being fat and ugly, guys never were interested in me, etc...

I wish I looked like those girls in men's magazines. But I know that's impossible and extreme and not a solution, help me break this obsession because I've even cried and I don't even like the thought of my guy looking at those girls... I feel like I'm going crazy, when we first started dating/having sex I didn't have these concerns at all, and at that time I was fatter and uglier! Now two years later and after falling in love I'm entirely consumed by this and just want to be perfect, not because he'll stop looking, but because I don't measure up if he looks.
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harmony1
replied on August 2nd, 2008
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The majority of us don't look like those girls in magazines. That's something you are going to have to accept. Have a think about why those girls look so good though. They have make up artists, stylers, Hairdressers. If you had all those things too you'd look like a million bucks too. Don't get too down on yourself. i can relate to how you feel and you can sometimes feel hurt that your boyfriend looks at those girls but everytime you feel down think to yourself, make up artists, hair dressers, stylists. They would prob look like ordinary people without all that stuff.
Hope this helps you in some little way.
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