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Q: not gaining weight ??
asked by: Xalleah08 on May 31st, 2008
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Everyone tells me not to worry about it, and that as long as the baby is healthy (and is actually measering a little big via ultrasound) that it is getting what it needs. But every now and then there is someone that tells me that I am not gaining enough weight, and shows me charts of average weight gain and compares it to where I am and makes me feel guilty for not eating more. I am 23 weeks along and have maybe put on three or four pounds. I eat fairly regularly, whenever I am slightly hungry, I snack. I eat healthy foods, I get fairly regular exercise, I don't own a car, walk a lot. In fact, when I eat something unhealthy, like pizza, I feel slightly sick. The baby isn't used to that kind of food I guess. If I go to long without eating I get heartburn, and immediatly know i have to eat something and then it goes away. I am uncertain if I am getting enough calories each day, but I don't FEEL hungry, and I don't eat empty calories if I can avoid it. According to the nutrutionalist I have talked to I have nothing to worry about. My sister had a similar problem and at one point lost so much weight she weighed in at 99 lbs. Has anyone else had this happen? Any suggestions?
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catalina.
replied on August 10th, 2008
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i am the same! i am now 15 weeks and i am finding it hard to put on weight! when i first got pregnant i had terrible morning sickness all day long and it really made me ill! before pregnancy i weighed 66kg and when i saw my midwife at 12 weeks i had dropped to 57kg! my midwife told me to eat every 2 hours!!!!! i still just could not managed that! and i am finding it hard to eat anything let alone that little bit extra more! i had my scan and the baby was fine,but i just wanted to say that your are not alone really and i am going through the same thing! the only really thing i can say that is starting to help me is blending a glass of milk with a banana a couple times of day and it just gives you a little boost really!
i am showing but by no means am i putting on weight as i should,people are still commenting on how lean my arms and legs are looking and for the first time ever i i am concerned that i am loosing weight! i think worrying about it too adds to the not wanting to eat!
hope this helps,just a bit! take care and let us know how you are getting on!!!
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Xalleah08
replied on August 12th, 2008
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What ended up hapening for me was around the middle of my second trimester, a little past the middle maybe, I regained the weight that i had lost but was still not gaining as much as the charts said I should.At the begining of my 3rd trimester I was about 4 lbs. over my starting weight. It wasn't that I wasn't eating at this point it was just my metabolosm not letting me gain any more than that. Now I Have finally gained about 12 lbs altogether and only have about 5 weeks to go. Despite this the baby isin the 60th percentile growth wise and will probably be about 8lbs when she is born. Part of the reason I have not gained much more is that I haven't retained much water. I drink so much water on a day to day basis that it flushes my system out pretty well. I am glad that I don't have to worry about not being able to pack on the pounds they said I should be able to. As long as the baby is etting the nutrients she needs and is not underweight, I am happy. I just wish they had been able to estimate her weight sooner to I could get my mind off of it.
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worriedauzzi
replied on August 12th, 2008
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I did not gain any weight at all during my pregnancy ... I did not even have a bump until I was 8 months pregnant. I remember when I was over due people were asking if I were pregnant because I had such a small bump. I gained only 5kg and not until I was in my 9th month. I didn't show becaue I had very strong stomach muscles prior to falling pregnant and I was very active throughout my pregnancy. Count yourself lucky ... My baby is now 2 and a half weeks old and you can't even tell that I have had a baby. Smile
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vcaone
replied on August 12th, 2008
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Hi, I really don't understand people in general. When you gain too much, it's not right, when you gain too little, it's not right. What do people want? When I went to hospital with my first pregnancy at about 21 weeks, nobody believed I was pregnant as you couldn't see anything. With my second pregnancy I got the reaction 'geezzz!!!' from about the same time. My sister only gained about 2.5 pounds in her second pregnancy. As long as your dr is happy with you and your baby I don't think you should worry.
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worriedauzzi
replied on August 12th, 2008
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Yeah vcaone thats right I had my friends and family asking if I was starving myself in order to keep my figure. Fricken ridiculous people comment that women who gain lots of baby belly are "stuffing themselves with food" and people who get no baby belly are "starving themselves" ... In my last comment I said I gained no weight in my pregnancy .. I actually ment to say I gained no weight until I was oerdue when I gained 5kg but that was all in fluid retention.
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Xalleah08
replied on August 12th, 2008
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People kept asking me if I was eating and I would say I eat practically all day. I would always have a snack on my and was frequently hungry and have never had anything against gaining weight while pregnant. I didn't start to worry until people kept telling me that I should be gaining more weight and then I started to worry. I guess the moral here is to just trust your gut feelings. I was eating enough, and it was mostly healthy foods, but I was also out and about most of the time and getting a lot of exersise and probably burning most of the weight off.

I feel kind of silly for worrying about it now. I'm just happy that she's healthy and active.

The doctor is now telling me that he's hoping I'll deliver a week early so that she might be a little smaller and easier to push out. I'm not about to start worrying because in my family 8lbs is fairly normal and labor is relativly short anyway.
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worriedauzzi
replied on August 12th, 2008
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I hope you have a good labour. Me my labour was hell ... it lasted forever and my daughter was only 7lb ... I had very tight stomach muscles as I worked out alot and was even kyacking and body boarding the day before I got induced. This however did NOT work in my favour as my muscles were so tight they couldn't loosen enough to let my daughter out and her head became swollen because I was pushing but she was so tightly wedged in there she couldn't come out, in the end they had to use the suction cap to get her out ... the needed to use two! I also had an episiodomy ... Now my stomach is hard again ... after 2 and a half weeks ... but I don't recomend anyone to work out whilst pregnant haha cause all it did was keep my muscles firm and the end result was over 24hours of active labour and LOTS of stitches. Haha but good luck to you!!!!!! How exciting I miss being pregnant and feeling my little girl kick. Sleep now whilst you can.
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vcaone
replied on August 12th, 2008
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And I have to add that with my second pregnancy my baby weighed less than with my first. Go figure!! Both times just over 5 pounds!!
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worriedauzzi
replied on August 12th, 2008
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Oh my gosh 5lb thats crazy ... how breakable? My girl was 7lb and I thought I was going to break her everytime I changed her ... she was tiny I can't even imagine changing a 5 pounder!!! Was that an easy delivery though?
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vcaone
replied on August 12th, 2008
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And I have to add that with my second pregnancy my baby weighed less than with my first. Go figure!! Both times just over 5 pounds!!
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vcaone
replied on August 12th, 2008
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Emergency C-section at 35 weeks. Unfortunately, both times. With the first I was in and out of hosp as from about 21 weeks. Placenta previa (spelling?) and ubruptions. With the second no problems until right at the end when he decided to come, the dr didn't want him to, and he died from the meds. (brain damage) He would have been one this coming Friday (15)
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worriedauzzi
replied on August 14th, 2008
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Oh my goodness. Thats horrible .. I'm so sorry, I got goosebumps reading that. Sorry for your loss. Do you have any other children?
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vcaone
replied on August 14th, 2008
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Yes, luckily I've got another boy who turned 5 the 6th of Aug. Without him (and the support of my fam) I would not have survived. You know it's much easier to be negative than to be positive when something like that happens, but I am very gratefull for what I do have and try not to think about the 'Why's.
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vcaone
replied on August 14th, 2008
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Yes, luckily I've got another boy who turned 5 the 6th of Aug. Without him (and the support of my fam) I would not have survived. You know it's much easier to be negative than to be positive when something like that happens, but I am very gratefull for what I do have and try not to think about the 'Why's.
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worriedauzzi
replied on August 14th, 2008
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Wow well your very strong.
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lagringarican787
replied on September 10th, 2008
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smaller baby DOES NOT mean easier delivery lol
my mom tells EVERYONE this... all my brothers and sister were 7 or 8 lbs, but i was 5 and my brother was about 1 or less [ still born] and she said we were the most painful, my mom barely tore with my brothers and sister, but she tore horibly with me, and i slammed my face on her pelvic bone coming out [ hyper since birth lol] and i have a fat bruised lip as soon as i was born lol she shoulda known i was trouble then lol jk
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worriedauzzi
replied on September 11th, 2008
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Yeah smaller baby does not mean easy labour ...my baby was just 7lb and I was in labour for 39 hours and 40minutes she ripped me in places I didn't know could rip and we both stopped breathing and because of the intensity of labour had to spend the next 36 hours in intensive care. She also split my pelvic bone. ... Note to self ... furthur babies will be delivered via elective C section.
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