Hi Sarah,
I'm a 36 year old male and I have nocturnal emissions or wet dreams every now and then. It might be because I'm still a virgin, I'm not sure, but my 'wet dreams' occur at night when I have an erotic or sexual dream. I then ejacultate and wake up with finding a sticky mess in my pj's - much the same as when I first had them around 15-16.
Hope this helps,
David

Sarah,
Its normal and can still happen to men at 40 (or 36 yrs old). I would suspect it does not happen all that often at these ages but it is not impossible.
Wet dreams or nocturnal emissions occur due to the male getting into a highly aroused/erotic state while in a dream. For a short time there is little or no separation of fantasy (dream) and reality and so what is happening in the dream, let's say he is experiencing oral or straight or even anal with a beautiful woman, seems to be very real and thus he will have the urge to and eventually cum.

Are you worried about this??

Wendy

Hi Wendy,
Thanks for your reply. I wasn't really worried about still having wet dreams at my age but just curious really. Often I dream about a sexual scenario with another girl but sometimes it's about a boy. It's good to know that my sexual organs are functioning well. Would the frequency of my nocturnal emmisions be lesser if I was to have a romantic relationship and begin sexual intercourse with a woman/wife?

David

David,
That's hard to say, because nocturnal emmissions occur while in dream state and really depend on what is going on in the unconcious part of your mind. My opinion would be that if you are sexually satisfied in real life you may have a tendency to have less wet dreams, but then again, your reality may still not have the sex activities that you desire. For instance, you gf or wife may not allow anal intercourse (this is common) and thus you may dream about doing a girl up the butt.

Wendy

I guess you're right and I do occasionally have kinda weird erotic wet dreams which may explain what you've said. I remember having a really embarrassing one *blushes* when I was in my late teens/early twenties when in my dream I was naked and about to take a bath. Mum then told me that I did something wrong and asked me to bend over her lap so she could spank me. After slapping my bottom a few times I felt highly aroused and woke up to the mess in my pj's of another wet dream. *blush blush* The thing is that this dream isn't something that I'd fantasize about - well the spanking maybe but not er - from a parent. So, I take it that it's normal to have weird wet dreams where things you wouldn't normaly expect to happen happen if you see what I mean. Could they be linked to fantasies you haven't experienced but wish for like you described earlier, Wendy?

Davidb822,
Your fantasies are just that, fantasies, and do not necessarily reflect on how you really want to conduct your life in the real world. You may, for a fleeting moment, get aroused, or cum thinking about something that is abnormal to your real world, but seems exciting when you think about it (almost like thinking about yourself in the 3rd person or as an observer).

Wendy

i have a q now im 18 and i have never had a wet dream is that normal?, i started going thru puberty when i was around 12 so i dont undersatand, can someone let me know if this is "normal" i remember the first time i found out that i had sper was wen i was masterbating and it was just alittle clear sticvky stuf, maybe that was my type of wet dream? can somone let me know whats up

My husband of 14 years has been waking me up at night.He has for the past 6 months woke me up humping the mattress & moaning.When he does this I usually try to help him out with it but he gets startled & turns away from me.Guess its not me he is dreaming of huh?What would you say can cause a man to do this?

Just hoping to find some answers to my questions? Still being woke up by my husband and still the same reaction when I touch him. Maybe I wouldn't have so many doubts about my husband if he And I actually had sex. But I am a 33yr.old married woman going without!

Well I have tried to make some since out of all this and I still can't.I have asked other people joined this website and even asked my husband.Still nothing!So I have gone and filed for a divorce.Maybe this will get a response from him!For yrs he has watched dirty movies and hid that from me & now this!Has he got too far out there in that perverse world that the normal have sex with your wife isn't enough?I have always been very open with him and willing to try new things but he still chooses to turn away and hump the mattress!Maybe I am just not enough!Afterall he has always insulted me!

hi tiredcurious...so sorry to hear of what's going on with you guys. i know that's difficult for you. perhaps the most difficult part is that you say he has always insulted you.

i don't know if my words will help or hurt, but since no one has responded, i'll offer what i have.

i'm a 27 year old woman, and i am single. i sleep on my side, so i have always slept with a pillow under my head and a pillow between my knees (better for back alignment).

well one night i woke up about 2:30 am and i was shocked that what woke me up was me "humping" my pillow. now it's not particularly shocking that i would hump a pillow...but it did shock me that i would do it in my sleep. i just "went with it" and got my "girl o" and was done with that, but it did surprise me that i would actually do that in my sleep.

now, had my boyfriend been sleeping with me at the time and had he awaken me because i was humping my pillow, i'd have been REALLY embarrassed.

i don't watch dirty movies, and i don't disrespect my b/f in any way...but in reality, on occasion, i do hump my pillow at night in my sleep.

jasmine

I'm 36 and I have wet dreams occasionally. I never had them as a child and started only after I was like 29 or 30. I have maybe had 4 or 5 since I started. They are all related to sexual dreams. I am married and consistently, sexually active and very satisfied in my relationship with my wife. My dreams usually involve me masturbating (not in reality). I used to masturbate frequently but a few years ago major changes in my relationship with my wife left me no longer desiring to satisfy my self in this way.

I usually wake up feeling guilty after a wet dream. I don't agree with masturbation or looking at porn, it just does not settle with me, that's all.

My point is this. I find that when I am stressed out or overwhelmed at work or in some other area of my life I end up waking up after a "wet dream". Historically I'm not one to be emotional or complain about my problems. I tend to internalize my feelings, thoughts & fears, like many men my age.

The problem is that when I do this I fail to express my thoughts and work through my fears and end up just wanting to feel good. Like I said I used to masturbate very frequently and I would use that as a way to make me feel good when I was stressed or whatever. Now I'm guessing that my subconscious is still associating stress relief with orgasm.

I find that when I'm healthy I'm thinking and processing my emotion and all that I'm living through with honesty and transparency then I don't have "wet dreams". So in effect "wet dreams" are an indicator that I'm not doing what I need to do to be whole and healthy from an emotional/stress/thought life perspective.

I'd imagine that most folks would disagree with me on this. All I can say is that this rings very true in my life. I figured that I'd share it as it may be true for others.

Wow, it seems like guys can get them later in life without havning them around puberty time and for different reasons. I'm 37 and had a wet dream the a few days ago but mine usually invlove an erotic situation, usually being nude around a girl in her late teen or early twenties. I don't seem to dream about actual sexual acts (maybe the occasional spanking) probably because of my sexual inexperience and virginity. I'm not often in stressfull situations like the poster above as it does seem to be random when I have a nocturnal emmision. I usually masturbate about once a week or fortnight but I do find that wet dreams don't usually occur the night after ejaculation.

David