I am a 40 year old male, and have never been with a woman in that way. I really have no interest in sex. I have got a girlfriend (who I have been with for nearly 7 years, but I have never had sex with or even seen her naked.) I don't live with her and see her about 4 times a year. She has had sexual partners with lots of men and though I do love her, its only really as a friend. Is their something wrong with me? Or is this quite normal. I am sorry if this sounds like a joke question, but I hope you will take this seriously. Thank you!
Do you feel lonely? Does it hurt you sometimes at the thought of that you've never been able to be intimate with a woman like so?
I ask you this because you only seem distantly attached to your "girlfriend", and your age without having gotten that close with a woman.
If the answer to my question is, No, I don't feel lonely, then while many can agree that it isn't a societal norm, I don't think it is a problem or something is "wrong" with you.
To reiterate my statement -
Your actions are not normal as a societal whole, most people are driven towards lust to even a partial extent.
There is only something wrong with you if you feel there is. Meaning that if you are unhappy with your situation, and feel like you need to change it, or can't change it, etc, then there is something wrong because you ARE unhappy. If you are happy with your particular lifestyle, then all is well.
Personally, I somewhat envy you. The desire for lust causes many issues.
I envy this man as well. You should almost look at your lack of desire for sex as a gift. Think of all the things that go wrong in the life of a man because of his inability to control his sexual desires. Clouded judgement in the following forms; high bar tabs, high girlfriend/wife expenses, unexpected childcare costs, high divorce costs, all of the emotional costs and stresses related to interaction with women.
There are benefits but I think in the long-run, a man's sexual desire causes more cans than pros in his life.
The lack of desire makes it hard to be intimate with my wife and makes me not feel like a man. We have two kids but I wasn't sick back then nearly as much. I told my massage therapist once that a cheerleader of my favorite football team in the NFL could be massaging me, and it wouldn't affect me much. I can acknowledge beauty, but I don't have passion or lust because of it. I can see how too much passion could be a problem, but having no drive due to fibromyalgia takes away two things that drive men - sex and work.