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When manually stimulated, the backside of the clitoris region (which is rich in nerve supply) gets stimulated making your orgasm stronger and better. When doing penetrative sex, the area might not get well stimulated due to which you are not able to feel orgasm. It is not necessary that every woman gets orgasm during each sexual contact. Some can feel orgasm like you, and some do feel it at all.
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