I am a 57 year old woman. I always could have an organsm with my now deceased husband and had a very active sex life. After he died, my period stopped and I entered menopause. Two years later I re-married a man who is not the best at sex, not the worst, but I haven't had an organsm in three years and now can't at all. What is the problem with me? I can't even organsm by masturbating.
Hi, and thanks for your medical question on eHealth forum!
The ability to have or not have an orgasm depends on your attachment with the partner, your mental state, comparative feelings with respect to what you had before and attaining menopause.
About 10-15% of women have a decreased sex drive with menopause. Also the idea is to enjoy the experience and share what pleasures you more with your partner. Vaginal dryness can be another cause.
Discuss this with your gynecologist and see if hormone replacement therapy is required in your case and whether it will help treat vaginal dryness and failure to have an orgasm. Hope this helps. Take care!
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