Well traditionally, a pregnant woman isn't really supposed to throw her own shower. It's widely viewed as tacky because it looks like you're begging for gifts.

Can your mother throw the shower for you instead? Maybe she'll know people to invite. Or perhaps you could invite some of the people who attended your last shower if you've kept in touch. If you haven't, it might look odd that you're contacting them out of nowhere - and again, it might look like you're simply doing it to receive gifts.

You might also "invite" people from eHealth Forum, have a small party and just send us the pics. It's really all about celebration.

I am not haveing a babyshower. But i am haveing a babyshowing after the babys born and like a babyshower gift would be welcomed. Babyshower cost to much and i would rather but the cash on stuff i need for my baby.

I thought baby showers were for the first kids?

It depends. If your second child is a different gender or there's a significant gap between children (4 years or so I'd say) it's usually seen as being okay.

My second child is a girl and my children will only be 2 years apart, but my daughter Alyvia was born in the Louisiana summer, and Victoria is due next month in December. I can't use most of Alyvia's newborn clothing for Victoria. Family and friends are helping us with clothing and diapers, and we're reusing everything else. Bedding, breast pumps, toys, etc. No second shower for me - just wonderful friends and family pitching in when they can.

i am in the same situation so i am just not going to have a baby shower. but that is ok. i guess. This is my first. so I never ever had one.

I always look at it as, if someone wants to give me a gift, they will, whether or not we have a shower or not.

I don't have a lot of "girl" friends, so I invited my family and guy friends. It's totally acceptable to invite a guy friend. They actually enjoy these parties too.