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Q: No feeling during sex

asked by: blur09 on July 25th, 2009

New User

I love my boyfriend and I know the things he is doing is right. I can get aroused, I can get wet but when he tries to do anything , from Oral to fingering, I dont feel good. Nothing feels good. Having my clit touched just makes me feel uncomfortable... and not in a good way. In a way like "ugh rather not" And its the same when I do it. I have done masturbation and nothing feels nice, I have a vibrator but...Again not comfortable. Ive done everything from feather light gentle to pretty rough. I must note that Im a virgin, and we havnt had sex because...I keep making us stop. The pain just has been to much for me.

What is wrong with me that NOTHING feels nice at all?!

Replies(7)

W0LF

replied on July 25th, 2009

Extremely eHealthy (online)

It's very possible that nothing is wrong with you. Women are not born sexual creatures. It is something they come to through development. How old are you?

blur09

replied on July 25th, 2009

New User

18 going on 19

sexworkers

replied on July 26th, 2009

New User

Maybe there is something holding you back from feeling the pleasure. Sex is primarily psychological. I've felt the same sometimes. Other times when I'm not stressed or tired, I feel more relaxed and enjoy the pleasurable sensations sex with my lover gives me.

blur09

replied on July 26th, 2009

New User

Maybe, Its just half the time im very aroused, and def in the mood.

W0LF

replied on July 26th, 2009

Extremely eHealthy (online)

Yeah its probably a little late for late bloomer. I'm inclined to agree with sexworkers that maybe you just haven't found the right frame of mind. Try Masturbating in different environment, bath, living room, try partially clothed, maybe try pornography. Change your headspace and you may find that the pleasure comes more easily. After about a month of mixing things up if you're still feeling no closer maybe it's time to talk to your OB GYN about it, see if there's an anatomical issue that can be addressed.

Acid23

replied on August 30th, 2009

New User

I have heard that if girls masturbate to early they lose feeling in their clit. Like WOLF said maybe you need to free your mind in a way to have a good experience.

ServiceU

replied on August 30th, 2009

Supporter

some of the things your experiencing has a lot to do with your being a virgin. there was things that hurt and felt uncomfortable to me during that time.
if you are a virgin you cant compare him to anyone else. so how do you know if he is doing things right.
for experience, you will find that one guy can do something and you will not get much feelings from, when another guy can do the same thing and you can see stars in the sky.
i cant explain why you dont enjoy masturbation. some women wont get off on that. you have to explore your body and find out what turns you on.
if something hurts you, your probably tense and not relaxed.

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