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Q: No boyfriend and pregnant
asked by: inneedofadice35396 on October 8th, 2009
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I just found out today that i am pregnant. Just typing it scares the crap out of me. I'm only 17 and the father moved to North Carolina because everything where i live is so screwed up for him. I have never had a boyfriend. I tried to commit suicide in January of this year and i'm starting meds for depression this month. My mom's car just got repoed on her birthday. I am however 20th in a class of 400 in my highschool and am currently working between 2-3 jobs. (one is seasonal). My best friend in the entire world was born when his mom was 14 and i can't imagine not having him and i have no idea what to even do. Please someone offer words of advice or support or just give their opinions. I really need a strangers advice.
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ProudMommyof2008
replied on October 8th, 2009
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i understand how you feel, being pregnant is a scary thing, especially when you are young.
and its even harder when going through depression and all that.
i strongly advise you to tell your mother if you haven not already done so, and you also must tell your doctor about this.
know that there are other options than just keeping the baby; you could put the baby up for adoption, and have an open adoption where you recieve updates on the child, some open adoptions even let the biological parent come on family outings/trips, and be involved with the child as much as possible. that is option 1.
you could get an abortion if that is something you think is the best choice for you since you are only 17, going through depression and about to take anti-depressants.
that is option 2.
and finally, you could keep the baby, raise him or her on your own sort of-living under your parents roof- take night classes for graduating high school, and work as much as you can.

either one of these options is a hard one to make.
and that choice you make does not just affect you, it affects an innocent life.
i would strongly push for adoption though if i were in your shoes, you have so much going on right now, depression, stress, school 2-3 jobs..all that piled on keeping and raising a child..the stress, anxiety and depression piles up like paper work when your in a position like yours.
and your still just 17. your not done high school yet, and you live with your parents who-even though you do have jobs-provide everything for you:a roof, food, heat, electricity, health care/insurance, etc.etc.etc.
if i were you, i would opt for an open adoption, that way that child gets everything and more from loving parents, you still get to be involved and recieve updates/photos, but still get to live out your life to the fullest, sort out your issues with depression, graduate from high school, go to college or university, get a stable career, build up savings, get your own place, experience all the things you want to in life and then plan a child.
having a child with all these loose ends jumbled about is very difficult. stress, anxiety and depression creep in for some, and doing all this when your so young too makes things that much more difficult.
i wish you luck, if you ever need to talk PM me anytime hun.
BUT!! REMEMBER: TELL YOUR PARENTS AND A DOCTOR A.S.A.P.!!!
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im13teengirl
replied on October 31st, 2009
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hi im yani and 13 yrs old and got pregnant and have an abortion please if your thinking for ABORTIOn plz ABORTION IS NOT THE ANSWER. maybe you could go for another option like ADOPTION' because i dont what you to regret like me because i just regretted it until now. babies are so precious..

hope it helps/
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spazgal123
replied on November 15th, 2009
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hey, ok so your situation pretty much sucks, im really sorry. but i dont think you should keep this baby AT ALL wheather you choose abortion, or adoption either is better then you keeping it. you need to think about your baby's future and not just yours, your baby needs a loving stable environment. there are thousands of couples that cant have kids that would love to have your baby. you might want to take that into consideration. best of luck. -ash<3
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