New Pleasure for Her, Relationship Risk?
Relationships and Marriage
So first off my girlfriend and I always have great sex. I always give her orgasms, she gets them from direct clitoral stimulation by hand or mouth after intercourse. She also enjoys he sex itself immensely. I want to give her the maximum pleasure that I can possibly can and am always thinking of new, creative, and fun things to do. Hence I would like the opinion of women for this next one.
I am thinking that for most women a little extra girth in the �penis region� during sex will add to pleasure (of course up to a point). Now, we already are a good fit physically as far as that goes and she is not at all unsatisfied with me, this I know. Im devised a little creative way to use a thick condom or another layer of something that I can �sleeve� my package before I put the condom on (you might be thinking wierd, but I know it will work). This will make for a girth boost. So here�s the question. Do you think she, use yourself or friends as an example, would want me to use it all the time? Is there a risk of this effecting our relationship or make her perhaps desire someone else by looking for an extra girthy guy after the experience. I feel I am her ideal man right now, based on her satisfaction and happiness with me, but I wonder if this new experience and feeling might have an effect where I am no longer her ideal man, if this is a new level of pleasure for her, and she really likes it.
Since I wouldn�t want to do it all the time, could that make her seek out someone else? Is this a risk to our relationship? Should I scratch this idea and just do other things to give her new enjoyment? I mean the sex is already great. Please think of this in terms of the long term relationship health. It�s really not something that we would discuss ourselves, because its weird to bring up. If I do use it in sex it would be more of a surprise on an extra aroused night. So those are my questions.
Thank you,
Seeking Long Term
I am thinking that for most women a little extra girth in the �penis region� during sex will add to pleasure (of course up to a point). Now, we already are a good fit physically as far as that goes and she is not at all unsatisfied with me, this I know. Im devised a little creative way to use a thick condom or another layer of something that I can �sleeve� my package before I put the condom on (you might be thinking wierd, but I know it will work). This will make for a girth boost. So here�s the question. Do you think she, use yourself or friends as an example, would want me to use it all the time? Is there a risk of this effecting our relationship or make her perhaps desire someone else by looking for an extra girthy guy after the experience. I feel I am her ideal man right now, based on her satisfaction and happiness with me, but I wonder if this new experience and feeling might have an effect where I am no longer her ideal man, if this is a new level of pleasure for her, and she really likes it.
Since I wouldn�t want to do it all the time, could that make her seek out someone else? Is this a risk to our relationship? Should I scratch this idea and just do other things to give her new enjoyment? I mean the sex is already great. Please think of this in terms of the long term relationship health. It�s really not something that we would discuss ourselves, because its weird to bring up. If I do use it in sex it would be more of a surprise on an extra aroused night. So those are my questions.
Thank you,
Seeking Long Term
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It's inventive and may provide different stimulation but when you get down to it sexual satisfaction is sexual satisfaction. If she's happy with the sex you're having all this experimentaiton is fun but not really needed.
I'm more concerned about why you feel compelled to do this stuff? Your girl is interrested in you and your dimensions as they are. A little experimentation is fine but you're describing something a bit more extreme. Someone might feel that maybe you're a little unconfident in yourself sexually. While that's very normal for a man your age it will become a much bigger problem for your relationship than the proportion of your penis. If you're going to look at enhancing a part of your anatomy to give your girlfriend more pleasure make it your brain.
I'm more concerned about why you feel compelled to do this stuff? Your girl is interrested in you and your dimensions as they are. A little experimentation is fine but you're describing something a bit more extreme. Someone might feel that maybe you're a little unconfident in yourself sexually. While that's very normal for a man your age it will become a much bigger problem for your relationship than the proportion of your penis. If you're going to look at enhancing a part of your anatomy to give your girlfriend more pleasure make it your brain.
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yeah, sry bout the long-windedness of the post. Maybe im compelled because you hear lots of talk about girth giving more pleasure, and im like hey this idea would work, and I want my lady to have massive orgasms... I cant say for sure that the ones she's been having are the best she can have. So maybe I fall short from having ultimate confidence in my abilities to give her the best O's possible. I dont have a self esteem issue, maybe im i perfectionist behind the surface. Maybe im too much in my head with ideas like this and maybe I should just focus on mental stimulation and not physical anatomical enhancement. But I figure why not do both, im all for enhancing the mental aspects and using all five senses, but lets face it enhancing the "touch" sensation can't be done with mind alone or we would never have evolved penises the sizes they are. (much bigger than other primates in relation to body size)
Im an average thickness guy and she has only been with a few other average guys, shes the sweet type of innocent, not promiscuous at all type. For some reason that makes me want to give her the physical experiences that promiscuous girls might get... minus any emotional baggage, slutiness, etc.
Your advice is well noted though, I will double up focus on the mind erogenous aspects, as that is really the best place to increase pleasure. But I still have this idea too. And its not like im going to go from 5" girth to 6.5" or something dramatic, just a little bit, figure that will up the vaginal wall pressure a little, see if she likes it. Thanks again.
Any ladies with perspectives? Where would you rank this type of stimulation as opposed to other mental, sensual, stimulations? I mean for one, ejaculation control is way more important than girth I think.
Im an average thickness guy and she has only been with a few other average guys, shes the sweet type of innocent, not promiscuous at all type. For some reason that makes me want to give her the physical experiences that promiscuous girls might get... minus any emotional baggage, slutiness, etc.
Your advice is well noted though, I will double up focus on the mind erogenous aspects, as that is really the best place to increase pleasure. But I still have this idea too. And its not like im going to go from 5" girth to 6.5" or something dramatic, just a little bit, figure that will up the vaginal wall pressure a little, see if she likes it. Thanks again.
Any ladies with perspectives? Where would you rank this type of stimulation as opposed to other mental, sensual, stimulations? I mean for one, ejaculation control is way more important than girth I think.
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I would suggest first doing other positions that "up the vaginal wall pressure" before doing something like this. Also, she might worry that you putting something on your penis is going to make sex less enjoyable for you. Doggy style, girl on top, reverse cowgirl and I"m sure others are great ways to get great G-spot stimulation. Also, if you're on top, prop her butt up with a pillow and get her to close ger legs betweem yours. That tightens her for you, and she feels more of you inside. Basically the same effects you want her to feel without compromising any of your feelings.
As for my perspective, I think stimulation in other ways besides sex is great, but usually because I know it's leading up to sex. I think that's your girl's preference!
As for my perspective, I think stimulation in other ways besides sex is great, but usually because I know it's leading up to sex. I think that's your girl's preference!
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Yeah, I mean it would only cover my shaft, keep the head exposed and I would still feel alot just from the pressure, it would prob make me last extra long too if I choose, I am uncirc so I have lots of nerves down there as it is, so im not concerned about not feeling anything :O)
#1 Thanks for the reminder that the mind in erogenous zone #1. Yes you are spot on with this. Im not going to sacrifice that for anything.
Act: she really likes to have her legs spread in missionary, for some reason its like she dosnt like really any other positions, and thats fine with me also... if thats her thing. She'll do others if I want but as far as what she likes, its that way.
Ladies:
1. would it be hard to go from feeling different widths from the same partner... would it mess with the relationship, or view of your partner?
Id like to get responses from females who've experienced dif sizes,
2. if perceptions of sex and male desirability did/didn't change after first experiencing wide widths, etc...
3. would u see this kind of sex play as good or bad, welcome or unwelcome, assume it has no effect on the guys feelings about himself. I figure I can always add more width but cant cut back. I like my size, it dosnt take tons of lube to go at sex, not too scary for anal, not a jaw breaker for oral. so dont worry about my feelings of adequacy. Its all intact not being a wide guy (but am long). Humans are have big brains, we are creative with our, ahem, tools.
Still havn't done it, still curious. Need some female perspective.
#1 Thanks for the reminder that the mind in erogenous zone #1. Yes you are spot on with this. Im not going to sacrifice that for anything.
Act: she really likes to have her legs spread in missionary, for some reason its like she dosnt like really any other positions, and thats fine with me also... if thats her thing. She'll do others if I want but as far as what she likes, its that way.
Ladies:
1. would it be hard to go from feeling different widths from the same partner... would it mess with the relationship, or view of your partner?
Id like to get responses from females who've experienced dif sizes,
2. if perceptions of sex and male desirability did/didn't change after first experiencing wide widths, etc...
3. would u see this kind of sex play as good or bad, welcome or unwelcome, assume it has no effect on the guys feelings about himself. I figure I can always add more width but cant cut back. I like my size, it dosnt take tons of lube to go at sex, not too scary for anal, not a jaw breaker for oral. so dont worry about my feelings of adequacy. Its all intact not being a wide guy (but am long). Humans are have big brains, we are creative with our, ahem, tools.
Still havn't done it, still curious. Need some female perspective.
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I think she will appreciate you being creative. You should talk to her about this. Tell her you want to give her the best night of her life and get some other toys, massage oil etc. Play some sexy music light some candles. Having some fun with some toys can be a fun exciting way to spice up the relationship. I don''t think it will "risk the relationship" if you go about it the right way. Keep in mind however that if you are going from a pretty vanilla sex life to penis enlarging devices that is a pretty big leap. You may want to start with some other items and work your way up to this.
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I think your girl will be a lot happier if you focus on her body more and your body less.
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I think jules8080 is right about her appreciating your creativeness. Maybe thats just not the best way to go about it. Thats all up to you tho. I've never tried toys but I think it could really be alot of fun. And I dont know what all is out there but she might like that. You could ask her how she feels about it.
You said that you wanted some input from some females that have experience different sizes so. . .
Well I've had long and average thickness which was my first, then average length but very thick. Afterwards I
started dating this other guy, he was shy at first to have sex. Its because he wasn't comfortable with his size and the first time we had sex I pretty much felt nothing. After a while I got used to him and he was the best sex I've ever had. So you could say that size doesn't matter because you get used to it but at first after being loose it can leave you wanting more. My current byf is like average thickness and not as long and yes, it left me very dissatisfied at first so if a girl is loose it will take alittle adjustments to fit to your normal size.
You said that you wanted some input from some females that have experience different sizes so. . .
Well I've had long and average thickness which was my first, then average length but very thick. Afterwards I
started dating this other guy, he was shy at first to have sex. Its because he wasn't comfortable with his size and the first time we had sex I pretty much felt nothing. After a while I got used to him and he was the best sex I've ever had. So you could say that size doesn't matter because you get used to it but at first after being loose it can leave you wanting more. My current byf is like average thickness and not as long and yes, it left me very dissatisfied at first so if a girl is loose it will take alittle adjustments to fit to your normal size.
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first off, thanks to the ladies for the truthful input regarding my "input". Any others have experiences to share re: going from regular, to big, back to regular, or this topic?
Jules, true, should test the waters with subtle things first.
Cracker, I think you may have best answered my question regarding size change and relationship risk, because if she is already used to me than uping it would then make her have to go through a readjustment period after the fact which would maybe result in LESS good sex overall. Do the ladies think this is probably true?
how many days after having been stretched does it take to go back to normal feeling, or is it more a psychological adjustment to get used to not being as stretched? If its just physical than it could work on days when we wont see each other for a bit, but if its psychological it might mess with her head and emotions and thus really prob a bad idea... thoughts?
WOLF is right to anyone reading this, do not spend more than just passing thoughts on this, it is secondary or third level importance, make sure you got the foundation strong. And dont think this stuff is going to replace that by any means!!
Jules, true, should test the waters with subtle things first.
Cracker, I think you may have best answered my question regarding size change and relationship risk, because if she is already used to me than uping it would then make her have to go through a readjustment period after the fact which would maybe result in LESS good sex overall. Do the ladies think this is probably true?
how many days after having been stretched does it take to go back to normal feeling, or is it more a psychological adjustment to get used to not being as stretched? If its just physical than it could work on days when we wont see each other for a bit, but if its psychological it might mess with her head and emotions and thus really prob a bad idea... thoughts?
WOLF is right to anyone reading this, do not spend more than just passing thoughts on this, it is secondary or third level importance, make sure you got the foundation strong. And dont think this stuff is going to replace that by any means!!
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Hey no problem longterm. I'm glad I could be of some help. Oh and to answer your question, I dont think that the very slight adjustment in size would really stretch her much. As long as its not much bigger it shouldn't be too bad. It would be more of a psychological adjustment.
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