I have never told this to anyone even my closest friend. . . but I am here for help. My husband has physically abused me. I'm not 0 sure when it started. . . our fights would be loud and he often threw things. There was one point where he grabbed me and held me up against the wall. He has never caused bleeding/bruising but yes pain! almost he's broken many things, put holes in walls and beat down doors.

We sought the help of a close friend and really thought things would change. Now we have a daughter and for a while things did change. He didn't lay 1 finger on me while I was pregnant. since I've had the baby we've been in a fight where he pushed me down (which he claims was accidental) and just tonight he restrained me, held my arms behind my back and tried to force me down.

For the first time ever i remained calm the entire time. I calmly told him he needed to calm down. He kept trying to leave but I knew that he shouldn't because he was SO angry he might end up hurting himself, especially if he tried to drive. so I stood between him and the door, wrapped my arms around him and told him to stay for at least five minutes and calm down. Finally he agreed to that and stopped hurting me.

I stood and listened to him tell me how much I have hurt him. I am very mean with my words but I have never tried to be anything but honest but sometimes I am too honest and extremely harsh and he is very emotional and takes it very hard. I know this does NOT make it OK to hurt someone ever- EVER. But I feel like this is the first time I was able to calm him down on my own and get somewhere GOOD in a bad fight. I learned a lot about how to help him calm down- and it worked.

But we have a BABY now and every time I honestly believe he's not going to hurt me again, it winds up happening again. I am scared that someday I will end up in the hospital. I am even more scared of our daughter getting bigger and making him angry someday and him hurting her. that thought breaks my heart.

He knows this behavior is wrong and there is no excuse for it. We make progress for a while, but he ALWAYS reverts back to hurting me some way, some how.

Can someone like him REALLY change? If i stay with him will I put up with being physically hurt for the rest of my life??? Are there ANY success stories? I love him so much. . . but for our daughters sake should I leave him?