I'm in a very similar situation, 23 and the only relationship I've ever had was a long distance one, so we could never be physical, and she recently ended it by cheating on me. I'm just lonely as hell, for whatever reason I need a girlfriend, I need that female companionship, I just don't feel like I can be happy without being with someone, making them happy too. I was shy as hell all through high school, so I never dated or went to the prom or anything like that. I'll admit I'm definitely not the most attractive guy in the world, but I'm not the worst either, there's just something about me where I have terrible luck with women, I've always been more friend material than boyfriend material. Sorry I can't be much help but still, just to let you know you're not totally alone in this. Not all men just want to jump into bed with you, there are some out there that'll just love you for you.

Kandiapple...meet Dante. The two of you need to get your heads together and start a friendship! See Dante? Told you there are lots of lonely women out there! This is a good place to start!

i used to feel the same way........okay i still do most of the time. but all guys arent dogs!
i've learned sometimes it's good to just walk away from some guys. for example the guy that has relationship issues, when you want to be in a relationship. you shouldve walked away.
you should put your profile on myspace and facebook, and the other one. this is a good way to meet friends.
sometimes it happens when your not looking for love.

Ok i see what everyone is sayin im 14 turning 15 and i know for you people it's a young age but i am so concerned about the way women are feeling about men these days.Yes i know some men may seem like dogs but you have to remember one thing...They are only human.Instead of going right into a relation ship try working on building a friend ship first.I've been with my recent boyfreind for almost 2 years and befor we became in a relationship we had to work on a freindship first.Don't go right into thinking that all men are dogs and all they want is sex,because the more you think that the more you are pushing men away from wanting to get to know you

nikkiakabella,
you sound really intelligent for your age.
and you are right, i was friends with my b/f first, we did not have any sexual relationship for months of getting to know each other, and he is my best friend now.

Nikki, I also think you are so intelligent for your age. You made a great point about friendship. It's so important for couples to be friends. So many married people out there don't consider their spouses to be their friends or even have any communication. My husband is my best friend and we share everything. Men are not all dogs, just some, and some women are dogs too. Like anything, there are good and bad. You have to get to know people and a relationship should be easy, not stressful. I'm just rambling now. I think Kandiapple and Dante should get together. Start chatting online and see where it goes. Even if you live far apart, you never know where that friendship could lead. If anything, you can give each other great advice from the opposite sex. Good-luck and keep us posted.

Well I'm up for it if Kandiapple is, not saying I'm immediately looking for another relationship or anything, but still, a new friend couldn't hurt.

I'm glad that you feal that way ... Thank you everybody so much for calling me intelegent ... Most people lauph at me beacuse i am very smart and i dont understand why.
All i want to say is that i hop everyone finds that special someone in their life to be happy with .

Hey Kandiapple
The best way to end up in a relationship is to stop running form boys or start chasing girls. The only way you're end up on a date getting to know a guy is if you stop deciding that he's a dog before getting to know him. If you don't like the boys who are chasing you now broaden your search, try dating websites like Eharmony or OKCupid. Attend meetings of groups that interest you and strike up conversations with boys about your common interests. Being picky hasn't served you well yet and it's a tactic that gets much worse over time. Get out there and meet some men, take some chances with boys. It's how just about every other girl on the planet gets it done.

I am 27 and never been into relationship. I don't mind. i am happy having great friends around both male and female. we don't need to push ourselves into relationship just to make us feel good or fill the vacuum inside. I believe there is also a life beside being on a romantic relationship. Honestly i have struggles and pressures at my age but i realize that it's better to be single wishing to be married that being married/relationship wishing to be single... because of poor choices. Life is too short to whine, to feel sorry about not having a right relationship. Discover life beyond romance and i know when you learn what life and love is all about you will be ready to take steps... to be or not to be. There are a lot of great and wonderful people we can share our life with... take one step at a time.

grazy here

i am attracted with a guy who came from break up. Based on his words and actions he seems to have feeling for me too. we are good friends but i can sense that we are too careful in dealing with each other. We are both afraid to fall in love,despite of that possibility because it might be a mistake. We don't want to hurt each other, so we are not going to take the risk. my feelings is growing though i don't show it. so, at times i was think to place gap between us. so no hope will get in. it's safer i guess than being like this. at least i know where to place my self. I can be honest but i don't know how much he can be. so, we'll have a chance to meet others...
what do you think?

I am 20 years old and I have never had a boyfriend... In fact, I have never been on a date or have been kissed!!! This makes me feel awful like there is something wrong with me... I feel its because I am a plus sized girl... All the guys that I know only like the skinny, beautiful girls... Now I'm not saying i'm ugly, cuz I do have really beautiful features... It's just I always get turned down because of my weight... And losing weight will just attract the guys that go for looks... and i need a guy that likes me for me, no matter what i look like physically... What do I do?????

Hey kjpolzin
Not to be crass but lose weight. The notion that a man that doesn't want you as you are isn't good enough for you, is really why you're not dating anyone. It is also an excuse for you not to take better care of yourself. Improving your appearance is the normal process of courtship, we do it with clothing and make-up and hair and we do it with weightloss. There's no shame in looking better to attract a wider range of possible mates. You may not want a man that's only attracted to you because you're skinny but wouldn't it be great to find a man that's attracted to you because of your happiness sexiness and confidence once you reduce your weight?