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2KidleyWiknz Experienced User
November 5th, 2011
My x partner and i have been separated for 3 mnths now. there are court orders in place regarding our 2 children aged 2 and 1yrs old. he was very abusive, calling me names, holding knives to me, breaking my stuff, destroying our furniture, alot of this in front of our children. since being separated his had constant contact with me and the kids, calling everyday and speaking to the children and seeing them every few days for a few hours.
His also been asking me to go back to him. im so confused, i no my parents would be very angry if i did since the forked out 3000gs for a lawyer and are helping me support the kids. his been saying he loves me and we should give it another go for the kids sake, and he loves me to death still. but im scared hat he hasnt changed, he says he has, but how do i no? i still love him, i prob always will i am just unsure what to do, i dont want anyone angry at me, but i do want whats best for our children.

any advice???
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melissap
replied November 15th, 2011
You've already done whats needed ....separated!! Chances are he will never change unless your seeing him take effort with counseling...his promises mean NOTHING...abusive men say what you want to hear...remember that..if you choose reconcile then make him SHOW you and your kids he means buissnes!!! Right now you have the upper hand not living with him ....so my advice is give it time atleast a year apart to see what he's doing to change his cruel ways before taking him back please ...you've already done the hard part leaving and if he's true he will do whatever he can to become a good man and get over his " angries " that promote the violence. Otherwise you'll fond out the hard way and end up being physically hurt by him and your kids taking after his violence they witness ....for the sake of your kids well being ...move on if you can someone loving is out there waiting for you ...Melissa xoxo
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