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Actually, more than 1 in 6 people have herpes. About 1 in 4 women have genital herpes, and 1 in 5 men. And over 60% of the population had herpes type 1 orally.
Not everybody has symptoms, so a lot of people with herpes don't realize they have it. You may feel like your life is over as you know it, but it isn't. The only thing that's changed is that you have herpes and need to tell future sex partners before sex. You can manage the virus, and still do everything just like before, except for sex. BUT that doesn't mean your sex life will change or suck. There are lots of people who are not idiots about this, and just because you have herpes doesn't mean you won't be able to date. Many people are willing to learn about it and educate themselves, and if someone isn't willing to date you because you have herpes, then that person wasn't the person you should be with anyway. If everyone got blood tested for herpes, the stigma of herpes would vanish. Because quite a lot of people who make jokes about herpes would find out they have it! Herpes is only a skin irritation caused by a virus. It doesn't kill you, and most people have very little problems with it. It is very manageable and some people may never have another outbreak. It's just an inconvenience once in a while.
If you want someone for support, feel free to email me. I have been there, it hasn't changed anything about my life. I have a boyfriend who doesn't have it, and we have been together for 2 years.
OH, please don't feel ashamed. Herpes does not discriminate. Anyone who has sex one time can get it. Anyone who has oral sex can get it. It is JUST A VIRUS that has a lot of ridiculous stigma attached to it. Many more people have herpes than know it!