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Q: need some advice on mom travelling

asked by: aflsh on June 11th, 2008

Active User, very eHealthy

I need some advice on how to approach mom or what to do. Maybe I am overreacting....
My brother and his wife are expecting their first baby in August this year. They live in Australia. For those that don't know, my mom has epilepsy, 2 new hips, macular degeneration, fibromyalgia, and she is on oxygen at night.
My problem is she seems to think she is going to fly down there. (we live in Canada) and help them with the new baby. Shocked

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She is making all these plans, and expecting my brother to arrange oxygen for her and everything. My brother is a first time father, and I don't think it is fair for her to expect him to be worrying about her when he has a new baby. I don't know how to approach her about this. I know my brother and his wife do not want to hurt mom's feelings so they won't say anything. Whatever I say is going to upset her, I know. I just want to make sure she doesn't get hurt.
Anything? Confused

Replies(8)

TMJWorld

replied on June 11th, 2008

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gee thats a tough one------Show her the price of gas---and then show her an airline ticket----that would be enought to scare me off. and then explain that perhaps its for the best, what with her health and all etc. im sure you will think of someting

aflsh

replied on June 11th, 2008

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I hope so. She seems determined and she can afford it!!

TMJWorld

replied on June 11th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

ah darn it ---i was hoping that she wasnt shall we say well off

another thing is that you might just have to tell her how tough its gonna be----and then if she refuses you may have to let her find out for herself---i know it sounds harsh but sometimes that is the only way a person will learn

aflsh

replied on June 11th, 2008

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I am also thinking of my brother and his wife. I know that she will end up doing what she wants but that is a long way to realize that she can't do it.

TMJWorld

replied on June 12th, 2008

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yeah i know--but sometimes it has to be like that

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aflsh

replied on July 7th, 2008

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I talked to my brother and his wife the other day. He said of course he wants his mother there (which is understandable) but they know she shouldn't make the trip. My brother is buying a new computer with a webcam and hopes that mom will be able to get access to a computer and see the new baby from here. They are also planning on coming out as soon as the baby is able to travel by plane. It's a difficult decision whether to get involved or not. I guess we will have to wait and see.

TMJWorld

replied on July 7th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

well that is a good plan i think. lets just hope that your mother goes with it

aflsh

replied on July 19th, 2008

Active User, very eHealthy

Nope. Mom is now very hurt. My brother finally spoke to her and explained as nice as he could that they really don't have room for her. He told her all about the computer and stuff. Of course she now tells everyone that her son doesn't want her there. I tried to explain to her that he does want her but can't take care of her with new baby. Then she gets mad and says I can take care of myself (which she can't!). When I answered the phone, the first thing she said was "I hope your happy, I'm not going to Australia!" Can't win..

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