Im going through the same thing.. Ive read books, whih have helped but its still not enough.. Honestly the best thing is pushing through your fear and upset and really thinking back on if e's worth it or not.. i never thought id be dealing w the pain i am, and it seems to never get easier, but slowly it does... you cant keep asking yourself the questions you cant answer, it'll drive you crazy... if i had more details about ur situation i might be able to help u more! Im sorry if this isnt at all helpful.