My husband and I have been married for almost 6 years (together for 9) I'm 24 and we already have a wonderful son who is turning 4 soon. I am 12 weeks pregnant and this time is a lot harder than the last. I am just dead in the morning, which makes caring for my son difficult. I feel like a bad mother, even though he can get his own snack and entertain himself, after many attempts to get me out of bed one morning he actually ask me if I hated him! He is my world and I can't stand how this pregnancy is taking me over, with the fetigue and the hormones.
Which brings me to my other concern, my hormones are running rampant. First I was worried something was wrong with the baby, then I thought my husband was or wanted to cheat on me, because he has never been ultra into intimacy, but lately he has been completely uninterested in me. I told him about how I felt and he dismissed it, telling me he was just looking out for me. Recently I have been beside myself with feelings of sorrow, I can't help but think about how I would feel if I were to lose either my husband or my son. I cry uncontrollably.
And just this morning I woke up early like usual having to relieve pregnancy discomforts, but I found myself once again consumed by the thought my husband was hidding something from me. It nagged and nagged and I finally decided I needed to look through his phone. For many reasons I have had suspicions, so I got his phone (unstealth-like) he realized...when I came back he asked about it, I told him I just needed to see it, he replys "so did I pass the test?" obviously annoyed.
I feel terrible and wretched. I wish I didn't feel these ways but I can't help it, and it's pushing him away.
If you have insight, please try and explain this to me.
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The symptoms of depression and irritation are commonly seen during pregnancy. Each pregnancy is different, hence symptoms can vary. If you are worried about your hormones disrupting your normal and personal life, you should discuss the symptoms with your treating doctor/gynecologist and see if getting started on mild (and safe) antidepressants would help you control the symptoms. Men generally become extra responsible and do not share talks that can be discomforting to the spouse during pregnancy. If needed, you can consider going ahead with getting counseling or couple therapy done to help both of you understand each other and find healthy solution to the long lasting relation that you have. You can also consider taking help for household responsibilities and taking care of your son if you feel you are unable to cope up.
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