sounds to me like you wish you were with your ex, and the fact that you're with someone else just feels "wrong" to you.

i don't know why you split up, but i'm guessing there had to be a good reason. maybe you're just not ready to be in a new relationship yet.

do you have this same feeling if you have an orgasm by yourself, or just if it's with your new b/f?

jasmine

I have the feelings when I am by myself sometimes to.....after I do it myself I feel like I have done something wrong. I don't know I can't explain it.

makeitrain...i don't really know what to suggest other than maybe you need to get some counseling. if i were you, i'd talk to my doctor about it, and let my doctor give me some advice on what kind of counselor would be most effective at helping.

i'm not sure if you have some separation issues that are affecting you sexually, or maybe you have some sexual issues that are affecting other facets of your life.

in any event, i'm guessing it probably isn't going to be real difficult to resolve, and you may be able to resolve it by yourself. you know why you feel the way you do in that you have been through your own life.

i'd love to be able to give you some help, but i'm not too smart on these types of things. all i can be is a friend. if you feel like sharing more about what got you in this situation, i'm sure many on here (including myself) will be happy to look at it and see if we can help with some advice.

jasmine

What are your feelings about your bf versus your ex-husband?...Intimate relations are so special and unless you can truly give of your body to someone I can see how this may bother you.....You should feel nothing shameful about masturbating...It is important to you as a woman...Releasing this special part of you keeps you alive and truly makes you feel better all over....It is very healthy....

Maybe this man is not a true love....Maybe you are forcing something that is not ready to happen.....When you truly love someone and want to give your body to them, I doubt this will happen......My best advice would be give your body and soul time to heal.....Sometimes I believe that it is much easier for a man to sexually love a woman than a woman to sexually give of herself to have relations with a man....

Just my thoughts..
CA