I know she is only 4.5 but I am devastated. My husband and I have been separated for 15 months and my daughter sees her father approximately twice a month. He was very abusive both verbally and physically towards me. Because of the violence my daughter only sees him for short periods of time and there are no overnight visits allowed. Well, she spent 6 hours with him yesterday which was the longest visit she has had with him since the separation. When she got home she said she wanted to live with her daddy and that she still loved me and would visit me sometimes. She also said daddy and Elaine (his girlfriend) are a "mommy and daddy". She has a new babysister (daddy and Elaine's daughter)that will be a year old in May and she loves to play with her.
I care for my daughter alone with no support from her father and this hurts my feelings so badly. I have no life outside of my daughter, I take good care of her. I am already feeling the onset of depression because I have no life outside of my daughter. I know...I know.....she is 4 and had a fun day with dad and thats all it is but I don't know what to do when she says things like this. It's hard to say nothing and it's hard not to show that it hurts. Any suggestions?