my 10 year old has behavior and speech problems !

I am having problems with my 10 year old. She gets very upset if you get on to her. If you ask her why she has done something she breaks into tears apologizing. She doesn't however give explanations. The next time she says because she wants or doesn't want to. She will then cop with "I hate it here!" She has many other strange behaviors such as constantly organizing different types of playing cards. This goes on all day long. She flat refuses to do any type of physical activity. She will sit and stare at you for long periods of time bulging her eyes or just squinting and blinking them over and over and over again. She has speech problems. The speech teacher says she is about to test out of speech because she does great in class but the second she leaves she starts all over again with poor speech. She refuses to do homework. She simply writes down answers unless you go through each problem individually with her. Instead of reading books she "reads" the pictures. I am just at such a loss. No matter what you ask of her she flat refuses. She only plays with younger kids for the most part (4 and 5 year olds) and bullies all that she plays with. She only likes playing games such as house, or school, or even cops but only if she is in charge. I am at such a loss. She has been in group counseling for almost 4 months and nothing is changing. If anything else it is getting worse. She is getting worse by the day. We are getting back results from a psychological assessment on Thursday but I am not sure it is all behavioral. I live in Oklahoma and don't know of many resources. Please help me!