I recently started dating someone and he has informed me of his erectile dysfunction problem. He feels terrible and insists it has nothing to do with me and it has been something he has suffered with for a while. He went to the doctor and they told him it was all in his head and didn't prescribe him anything to help with the problem. He seems to have anxiety about sex and does not have much experience with it which probably contributes to the problem. I felt rejected at first but after talking with him and doing some of my own research I realize that there are many factors involved. I am not sure how to go about this. I enjoy sex and would really like him to be able to fully participate in it. I really like him about would like to help him through this. Any suggestions?
In a situation like this, it needs to be seen whether the problem is psychological or physiological. In today's day and age, with obesity and prediabetes running wild, we are seeing ED at an earlier and earlier age. It would help to know what his overall health is (obese, high blood pressure, triglyercide levels, etc..). There is actualy an old test called the "stamp test." In a normal male, there are cycles of erections through the night when he is sleeping. A stamp stuck on the penis at night ( http://www.umm.edu/ency/article/003339.htm
) can help to determine is the problem is more psychological.
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