Hi..I have been married to my wife for almost 11 years. We had actually given up on having a baby. Thought there may have been something wrong with one or both of us. My wife and I accepted this as sign that maybe we should not have children. But a week ago, after three pregnancy tests, it happened. We went to the doctor to confirm with a blood test. She is 3 to 4 weeks pregnant. My wife has high blood pressure and therefore is a high risk pregnancy. We both went to her doctor again the next day to have her blood pressure medicine changed; he also got her an appointment with an OBGYN. Its the usually worries about money and what to do next. I thought she was happy about the pregnancy, but she is not. We were even going through a name book to pick a name we both liked. Last night she told me she did not want the baby and things between us will never be the same. I know pregnancy can cause hormonal shifts. Unpleasant or even hurtful things can be said. She says she does not want to go on with the pregnancy. She is sure that i do not want the baby either. I worry about money and change just like her. I love her a great deal and do not want to lose her over this. I keep telling her that we can make this work, it may not be easy but what in life is. Today i told her we need to talk this out. She told me it was not my decision anymore. Neither of us really believe in abortion, so her wanting to terminate is out of the blue. I would love our child if we have one, but it would not be the end of the world if we do not. I just want her to be happy with our choice whatever it is. Please, someone help.
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She might be going through the pregnancy induced depression (pregnancy blues). Many women suffer with this as they fear that the relation with their partner will get affected by arrival of baby, or she will look ugly during pregnancy/have bodily embarrassment (basically feel insecure that you will not love her), etc. Both should consider going ahead with getting counseling done along with couple therapy to resolve the conflicts and cope up with the situation. Getting her started on antidepressants (safe ones to be used during pregnancy) might also help. She should also be in regular monitoring and follow-up with her gynecologist. She also needs more attention and care to help her carry on with pregnancy. Continue to get her blood pressure checked on a regular basis to detect any elevation and onset of pre-eclampsia.
Hi there, I am 7 weeks pregnant and when my partner and I found out we were expecting we were so excited. For the past 3 days I can't stop crying and I don't want to have the baby anymore. I called the termination place and I can go anytime. it's my choice. My partner will support me either way, he wants to have this baby and feels like he is a loser because I don't want his baby. I pray quietly for a miscarriage. I don't know what to do. I feel terrible and confused. I think I'm confused about my partner and I keep thinking that I will end up a single mother and I don't want that to happen to me!!
i am feeling the same way im 6 weeks pregnant and i already have two kids. i feel like with this baby i am very depressed and feel like i wont love it or want it i get very angry at times as well then sad and other times i feel ok with it it is really taking a tole on me and when i tried telling my doctor all she could say is well you have other options like abortion or adoption but i really dont feel like i would be ok with either i dont know what to do either i am already on anxiety and anti depressant meds i just need more advice am i alone on this has anyone else felt this way? my botfriend is really sad i feel this way and wants to do whatever to help but io dont knoiw what he can do???? help me!!!!
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