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My son is gone. I am grieving.

February 22 I went into pre term labor. My son is gone. I am grieving. But I know somehow I have to have the strength. Hi Iam new here but Iam looking for support. I have been isolating myself. But this week well today Iam goin back to school in fear of missing too many classes and next week I go back to work a month later. I don't know if I am ready. Dr told me to wait to have sex and wait to get pregnant because I had to have a D&C on the 3rd of march. Me and my hubby didn't wait. We have been having unprotected sex. I don't know if Iam ready to go through this again. But I do feel so empty.
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replied March 17th, 2012
Omg...i am soooo sorry to hear of your loss. there is no worse feeling than the loss of a child. I personally haven't had to experience that. Iam having fertility problems atm. Even though i have never experienced that i am here to listen. was the doctor able to tell you what happened? was it a medical condition? if so did you ask them if there was any way to prevent it. I promise ill pass no judge....if you ever want to vent just find me. Again i a soo sorry for your loss. My condolences for you and your family Sad
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replied March 17th, 2012
Yes it was a medical condition, this is my second lost a first early in the first trimester at 7 weeks two years ago. It took us a while to try again we were really looking forward to becoming parents. I have an incompetent cervix which from what I read could be from a number of things. It could of been cause I was doing too much I work and go to school and have a professional internship. I do blame myself a little. And than it could be that my uterus was damage from the first miscarriage but the doctor reassure me it was not. They try to tell me it wasn't my fault it happen. It was me and my hubby 6 years aniversary and we were out when I went into labor. Thank you for the good wishes. I am sorry to hear about the problems you have been having. I will keep you and my prayers hopefully we both can hve healthy babies.
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replied July 22nd, 2012
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Dear mom,

I am saddened to hear of your loss. I too have experienced the loss of a child. My wife and I were awakened from sleep into a living nightmare last year on May 29th with the news that our 27 yr old son had been killed in a car accident.

One thing we found which has been somewhat helpful is a nationwide group called "The compassionate friends" (just google it to find a chapter near you).

They are a support group for those who have lost a child. I would strongly recommend you attend a meeting or two with them. They are not a religious group or a 12 step type thing. They are parents supporting parents through the worst nightmare possible.

I think and hope you'll find them helpful.
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