just tell her how you feel, she shouldnt be stressing you out like that, and thats really unfair considering you picked the name first. if she has a boy still keep your girl name and she will just have to change it coz people will tell her she cant do that. they will be cusins

This is what I would do:

Since "I" mentioned the name first...regardless if she gives birth to a girl first or her reasoning is that she has reserved the name for a girl if this pregnancy ends up being a boy...I would still name my little girl what I want, first or not, and if she doesn't like it...tough noogies...there can be cousins with the same name.

If she refuses to share the name with your daughter then she needs to make the change...or suck it up and accept it as it is...

I hate when people do that! She sounds like she is doing this out of spite, just to annoy and anger you. See when I was prego with both my girls, I always told people a different name then what I was really going to name my baby because I know how people can be. Hopefully she has a boy lol But what I would do is tell her, that you and your husband have decided to name your girl something different...although you aren't and see what she says. She will probably ask you what you are going to name her, just so she can steal the name. And I would ask her why she wants to copy you, is she that jealous? How farther along than you is she?

Wait until your baby is born. You might find she doesn't look at all like a Maddi.

I am 24 weeks she is 25 weeks.

wow only a week apart, you could even give birth before she does, I was think that you were 4 months and she was like 7 months or something, but yeah just pray that you go before she does lol I wish you luck and hope that in the end she doesnt steal your name!

If having a child with the same name as hers would ruin the name for you, I would start thinking of another name. I would not ever again confide in her, as she has shown how petty, selfish and irrational she can be.
If the name means so much to you that you still want your child to have the name in spite of the circumstances, I would name her Maddilyn whether your sister-in-law liked it or not. Families manage to cope with people of the same name all the time without it being a big deal. If she chooses to freak out, then she's just a drama queen who is going to find something to cause trouble over.
I'm sorry that she's causing you stress during what should be a time of happiness and celebration.
Let's hope she has a boy!

I agree with everyone else. If you like the name keep it. And tell her that. Let her know that you are not changing your baby's name no matter what and chances are (because she seems so petty and immature) that she will change hers because she won't want for them both to have the same name. What a mean, spiteful hag she is! I'm almost as upset as I imagine you to be! But don't let her ruin your pregnancy or the beautiful name you've chosen for your daughter. If the name means something to you, then you should keep it. Good Luck with your pregnancy!

awww,same happened to me with my boy..my friend asked what i was calling him so i told her LEWIS.. turned out she was pregnant also but a month further than me, she had a boy and called him LOUIS.. arghh but i stook to my gunns!!

maybe you could spell it a diffrent way? or find a nicer name to suit ur baby xx

I thing your sister is not a good person. I have the similar problem but with my own sister. She named her son the same name as my daughter. End my daugther is even 7 years older than her son. She did not even said what going to be the name of the baby. When we asked her she always said they haven't decide yet. Can you imagine. You are lucky she is not your own sister.I was young end not upset about the name but irritated because she basicly lied. Later in live she stole things from my house both her and her husband. Becouse we moved to different country i did not found for many years who was taking things from my home but one thing started to bother me. Every summer when we went there she never invited us in her house. One day i just stop in her house and sow my things in her home. This was the end. I did not confront her but simply asked her not to go to my house without me there. Since than she is no longer talking to me. From my family I am only talking to her son very rarely. I did not get even an apology or getting anything back. You are in better position she is not a blood relatives. If you let her have your baby name now she will do more cruel things to you like my sister. I will pray she is better. Don't let her do it. It hurts so much. However i know many pretty names started with M like: Mariela, Mirela, Margaret, Magdalena, Miglena. I wish you the best. Let us know what is happening.

You poor girl, it sucks being in that position... I've always loved the name Ava & when I was pregnant with my first child, if it was a girl would be Ava Sienna. My brothers girlfried at the time (they are now married (unfortunately lol)) said you can't call her Ava because I'm naming my girl Eva and it's too similar. Anyway, we had a boy & while I was pregnant with my second child, a family friend had a girl and called her Ava...I was sooooo gutted!! When my daughter was born, as much as I still loved the name Ava, I just couldn't call her that because it made me think of so many negative things that I'd gone thru with my sister in law while I was pregnant. I chose Sienna Jade instead, I really love her name but deep down there is a part of me that regrets letting anyone or anything stand in the way of the name we really loved for our little princess. What I'm trying to say is if you really love that name, don't let anyone stand in your way, who cares what anyone thinks or says, it's your daughter and your free to name her whatever you like.....considering your sister in law would know that you told her you would name your daughter Maddilyn, if she has a girl and uses that name, why should you have to choose something else . You can give her different nicknames if there are 2 Maddilyns in the family. Stand your ground if you love the name girl! No regrets

When my mother was pregnant with me she didn't know if she would have a girl or boy but she told her mother what the chosen names would be. My grandmother was shopping soon after and was so excited and proud she mentioned it to a woman who my mother went to school with, who was never my mother's friend, but a nasty person. It turns out that she was pregnant at the same time and gave birth to a girl one month before I was born. She named her daughter with my name!

My mother was furious and when I was born my parents were at a loss for a name. So, for ONE YEAR, I was "baby", "sweetheart", "sunshine", etc... I had no name! They finally came up with something that they thought fit my personality and was even better, and it was. I pity the other woman and the child she had. How would you feel if you knew you had someone else's name? Someone who is incapable of coming up with something on their own deserves pity.

If I were you, I'd use the name if I really wanted to, it was yours first after all and after your husband's name too. I'd also mention it to everyone when meeting them, as a matter of fact, to let them know that the other parents liked it so much they copied you. If you don't want to bother with that, then come up with another even better name, and never trust her again.

My husband and his sister had a boy and girl named picked out since they were young. My sister and I had names picked out. Turnes out my husband and sis in law had they same boy/girl names. Well, we had a boy first so we got Daniel Frank, and they had a girl befor us so they got Megan Ann. First come first serve. If you really want to avoid the problems all together, don't discuss the names you choose until you actually have the baby. Also, just becuase she is due first dosn't mean she'll pop first. And she dosn't know what she is having. wouldn't it be a real kicker if you had your girl first and a second girl befor her so you could take both names?!

Hey you could tell her ok, you can have Maddi, and I'm gonna go with Gracilynn. You can only claim one at a time, and chances are she might not even have a 2nd daughter anyway, so no savesyies!

Hey I did some quick research and it turns out it's completely legal to have two people have the same name so you don't need to be upset about this anymore. You get to name your child whatever you like. Since she knew what you were planning on naming your child it's her problem if she gives hers the same name and it causes confusion. Go ahead and let her know that you're sticking with the name you originally chose and you're spelling it the way you want and she can deal.

Of course it's leagal to have the same name, but do you really think that ppl of the same family want children of the same name? I mean I know they're cousins and not siblings, but it could be confusing to the grandparents too!

There could also be legal problems if the children share the same last name as well but these problems don't have to be your problems. The name isn't being stolen. It's free to whoever wants it. You have a choice to make it your problem or hers.

I had the same problem with my ex sister inlaw. She disliked me sooo much...We became friends at one stage and she too asked what I would be naming my child. I told her Nicholas and when her baby was born...Well what do you know...She called it Nicholas...The best advice I can give is name the child whatever you like...But first and foremost do not let your sister inlaw know..Im now pregnant with my second child and I have not let anybody know...Good luck

My sister-in-law has a beautiful named picked out for her first girl. I wish I would have thought of it first. BUT I would never steal if from her. Sorry to hear about your predicament. Hope she sees it your way.