Hi I am a 23 year old mixed race gay man, My partner of 9 months is 38 years old white man and HIV Positive, we have always had safe sex the entire time, but we have however had unprotected oral sex both given and received, I am probably just being paranoid but we have been together monogamously 9 months am I at risk?
Also I read online that the risk is impossible to contract the virus through kissing unless it is french kissing.
I suppose I am worried because I had a couple of scares before and it was a false alarm and I only found out recently that my partner was Positive.
I have been stressed lately as we have a long distance relationship too (7 out of 9 of those months) where we have only seen each other at weekends and maybe had about 35% of unprotected oral sex given and received. The rest was always safe.
So we getting things sorted so that we can build a future. When I found out he was positive I didn\'t react badly just that I was upset that there was nothing I could do
Here are a few facts that you need to understand about oral sex and HIV. â
There have been no studies measuring the risk of getting the AIDS virus through oral sex alone. But available âevidence suggests that:â
â1. HIV is not easy to get from any kind of oral sex. The risk is much lower than that of unprotected anal or vaginal âsex. âThis is because HIV is normally only present in saliva in very low levels that are not sufficient to cause infection. The linings of the mouth and throat are very resistant to viral infections such as HIV, so infection is unlikely if they are healthy.
â2. Bleeding gums, gum disease, and sores in the mouth can make it easier to get infected with HIV through oral sex.â
â3. It is much easier to get HIV from sucking than from getting sucked. â
There have been recorded cases of getting HIV from sucking or giving head BUT â
There have been no recorded cases of getting HIV from getting sucked.â
â4. There have no recorded cases of getting HIV from rimming or getting rimmed.â
â5. It is much easier to get HIV from anal or vaginal sex without a condom than from oral sex.â
Transmission of Infection via oral sex with a partner can be prevented by - using a condom both during penetrative and oral sex.
With regard to your HIV POSITIVE partner, he might consult a doctor who can initiate the Highly active anti retroviral therapy (HAART) which can help control the infection, prevent the rapid progress as well as prolong his life.
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