My fiance is Bipolar and refuse to take any medication or see a therapist we have been together for 2 years now and I have 2 kids from a previous relationship. When we first got together i never knew anything was wrong she hid it from and i did notice somthing was wrong untill we lived together. I started noticing that she was extremely jealous at any affection or attention i gave to my kids and when i would talk to her about it her excuse was that i wasnt giving her enough time becuase it was all about the kids it got to the point where every weekend or holiday the kids couldnt be with us because she needed alone time with me and for her birthday and mine she always makes sure that we have a sitter so we can spend it with eachother and not the kids she says that she has to share me with them 24/7 and that the least i could do is give her the alone time she ask for and if i even disagree with this it turns it too a huge argeement that lasts forever and includes her making me feel like im the worst person in the world she says such hurtful things and when we fight she will completely ignore the kids saying that there my kids and I can deal with them. She needs to feel in control so anything and everyhting that has to do with the kids she has to do she has problems sleeping so she wakes up early and gets them up and ready for school she picks there clothes out she feeds them everyhting eles and if i say or try to do anything she flips out shes even the one that deals with the kids father and his family because she dosent want me to have any communicationwith them because it makes her jealous. in the begining of this year i broke up with her and moved back with my mom after i couldnt take it she had cut off any communiction i had with anyone she was in control of everything and after her telling me to move out because she couldnt take the kids i finally did it and for once I felt happy i wasnt walking on eggshells anymore she was out of my life but of course the thing about her is she can mess up so bad but she makes up for it and tries to change and does for a while. During our break up she kept calling me and saying she knew she was wrong and how she was gonna change and she even missed the kids and so we got back together but this time she moved in with me and i was still at me moms house so my mom and brother loved her when they first met her but when they started seeing how she really was and how she was with the kids and how moody she was and how they would see that my mood would change when she was around they wanted me to leave her they saw that even though she has a big heart and she was loving at times she knew how to manipulate me and how she had a very aggressive personality compared to me i am very shy and its hard for me to communicate about my feelings and i will do anything to avoid an agreement with her because i know how bad it will get. so during this time she has a part time job for a couple of weeks but had to quit she said she couldnt work because all she was thinking about was what i was doing and if my mom was putting things in my head and she was always thinking that i was gonna leave her again or that i was letting the kids do whatever they wanted instead of following her rules so she quit her job and again we were back were we started she was controlling everything but i felt safer because i had my mom amd brother and they saw and said the things i felt but assumed i was over reacting they saw that she was too jealous about the kids noticed that i was a loving parent but when she was around i was walking on eggshells again so for about a week all we did was fight she wanted us to move back to her parents house because according to her my mom was crazy and if i loved her we would leave i was tried of everyhting so i told me mom we were moving of course my mom was upset and i havent talked to her or my brother in about 4 or 5 months i miss them so much plus i know my mom misses the kids. We have been living at her parents house again which they act completely clueless they know she has bipolar but think that by not talking about it it will go away fyi there not her birth parents her aunt became her legal gardiuan when she was about 4 and she raised her with her husband as there own her birth parents have been ina nd out of jail and are drug addicts but have been in and out of her life ever since she was little i have met them both an her birth mom has bipolar but is also Schizophrenia along with other stuff her dad is just a bad person hes a criminal and drug addict always makes excuse for what he does and i espically hate the fact that he makes her and has made her do stuff that i dont approve of like stealing from her parents that raised her and im going crazy she still hasnt worked because she cant but she dose go to school two days out of the week for a few hours and when shes gone i love it and hate it all i want to do is spend it with my kids but then im so worried she might just show up and start a fight because im watching tv with them on the coach or im sitting down with them eatting because those simple things sit her off. I Feel like a horrible parent and sometimes i feel trapped because i dont have my mom to be able to call and say help me move out again. Now the kids have a small cold and i gave them medicine of course right now shes at school and i told her gave them medicine which she started an agreement about i dont know what to but ive never missed putting my kids to be bed or taking them to the dr's so much untill now she needs to be in control and talking about it only makes things worst everyhting i do has to be about her or eles im the worst person in the world All i do every day is try to avoid putting her in a mood and she refuses to do anything about her bipolar because she says she can control it which is a complete lie because im the one that has to deal with it. She always has headaches or cant sleep and has alot of stomach issues but wont even take that kind of medicine. She has her bipolar medicine in her drawer just sitting there but says she dosent want to depend on medication to live her life ... But im feeling like i need medication just to get by the day with her. I love her and the kids do to but im starting to feel like i cant keep making excuses for her behavior.
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