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Q: my mother broke my heart
asked by: noodlesoup on May 15th, 2009
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so i didnt know where to put this but broken hearted fit. i havent seen my biological mom in about 10 years and its been about 9 since i have heard from her. i kinda have an idea of where she might be but i am too young to look for her on my own. plus i am scared that i will show up on her door step and she will tell me she just didnt want me. my family tells me she loves me but i dont understand how you could leave a child you love. she has abandoned time and time again yet i do still want to know her. even though i have a step mother who has been there all 16 years of my life she isnt my mother. i feel like there is a part of me missing. theres a hole inside and only she can fill it. i wish she knew how much it hurts me to not know her or to know that she has 4 other children besides me yet i am her first and she left me. the sad thing is she broke my heart but i still need her
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gnm
replied on May 17th, 2009
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I am so sorry for your pain. I agree that sometimes its harder not to know than to know but I'm really glad you feel your stepmother is there for you, she sounds like a good woman. I'm wondering if you've spoken to your stepmother about this? perhaps she might help you find her? Another question you might think about is what you would say to her if you see her again, its been 9 years and a lot has happened for both of you in that time. I know this sounds funny, but try sitting down and writing her a letter of all that you would say to her if you could see her now- sometimes it helps to put your thoughts into words before such a big decision. Best of luck! and I really hope this works out for you, let us know?
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ServiceU
replied on May 21st, 2009
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your biological mother has given you life. and that right there is a great thing. you also have to think about is our parents is trying to protect you from what might hurt you in the end.
i hear alot about women in your situation feeling empty b/c they want to know about there biological parents.
you should talk about how you feel, be careful with how you say it b/c it could hurt your step mom b/c she did raise you.

i was raised in a physical & mental abusive situation by my dad. and not to be insensitive, but if wouldve been better if he was an absent parent b/c he caused so much hurt to my mom, my 3 siblings, and myself. and this caused problems in our childhood, adulthood, relationships, and how we parent.
so one thing that you should be very thankful for is being in a loving family, and that is something that i wished i had.
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