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My mom won't let me use birth control

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February 6th, 2011
Well, I am 16. I just don't know how to ask my mom for birth control. She knows my boyfriend and I have had sex. I think us being teenagers though she kind of expected it. I figured when I told her that my boyfriend and I had had sex it would of crossed her mind to put me on BC. But nothing has yet been said about it. As far as she knows, I have only had sex once. But it has happened unexpectedly since then out of urge and it has been happening more recently. So, I started thinking since it has been happening more frequently, it is time to take action and protect myself. The problem is my boyfriend is allergic to latex. My mom doesn't know that. And I think she secretly knows that we're having sex, she just doesn't want to know about it, so she probably thinks we're being safe. Besides having sex, my periods are very unexpected and come whenever they feel like it and I also have severe cramping. I am thinking it is better just to let my mom think I want the BC for my irregular periods, but because she knows I have had sex, she won't believe me about my periods and will think I just want it for sex. She thinks birth control is a form of permission to have sex. But it is not like that. So how do I explain to here why I want BC?

Thank You.
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replied February 7th, 2011
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Stephanie, Honesty is probably the best way. Since she knows you had sex already, it should not come as a surprise to her. You can add that it will help you with your irregular cycles and PMS.

You will however also have to protect yourself from STDs and infections. Having sex without condoms is a real no-no at your age. With every guy that ejaculates inside you your risk for bacterial infections increase.

There are many polyurethane condoms for couples with latex allergies. These are very thin and putting a drop or two of personal lubricant in the tip will make the experience much nicer for both of you.

The only safe option for you at this age (except for abstaining) is to use both condoms and the pill.

If you were my daughter, I would encourage you to rather use other forms of sexual play and avoid intercourse. Depending on the state you are in and your boyfriend's age, he might also be committing statutory rape, even if you consent.

Take care!
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