IF you fight a lot, then you definitely do NOT need more children!!

What makes you think that fighting is GOOD for children?

BABIES do not make marriages happy... DO you see how many pregnant women are harmed and killed every year? Their bodies are burned and hidden...

You need to WAKE UP and save yourself and your 3 CURRENT children from a relationship of fighting.

I have been married for 4 years now, WE NEVER FIGHT.

I totally agree with Carifairy.
How will having another baby solve anything at all? When you and your husband fight, i hope it's not infront of your children.
I had to take my 2 kid's and leave cause the fighting was so bad,thank goodness I didn't have anymore.

You can't make someone have a baby that doesn't want to.
If he says he would have another baby with someone else, just not you, why the hell are you still married, no offense.
Fighting will only get worse in time.
I think you should get out and forget about having another baby-that is the least of your problems.

Thanks for your replies
I dont want to have another baby to solve anything or make our marriage happier -i love children thats why and wanted a big family-even more so since my relationship isnt that good
I have lots of friends who separated and are NOT happy. My husband and I have a great LIFE together -friends parties holidays -just not a great relationship sexually which causes resentment and anger .At my age 46 i would not necessarily be happier on my own-probably lonely. Also he agrees that having our third boy is the best thing that has ever happened to both of us as he is so adorable-and he didnt want a third for same reasons-but now we hardly ever have sex because he cant come inside me very often-this is why he is so angry
Any comments welcome thanks

Maybe it is something he can go to the doctor and ask about - see if the doctor can help. There are pills men can use now.

Yes, I agree with NightStar, tell him to seek professional help. It takes a lot of courage for a man to admit he has a sexual problem, so it might take some time for him to accept medical help for this problem.

Another idea to help your sexual life is to try new things together. Rent a dirty movie and watch it together. Buy some toys, buy a sexy costume, just explore. Try new positions. It's always fun to try new things and who knows, maybe that will make things hot for the both of you.

Bow-chicka-bow wow

Have you thought of marriage counseling? Seems obvious to me. If he whines about it tell him it will improve your sex life, because it will.

Don't even think about more kids until you work on your relationship!

Why cant he come inside you? Is it because he doesn't want the outcome to be another kid? Go on birthcontrol but definitely work out YOUR relationship before you have another kid...idk why people think kids are the miracle solution to a relationship..if anything it just makes you work harder at the relationship...i agree with everyone else when they say couseling is the best..it sounds like both of you have some resentment there and have made no effort to talk about it and if it isn't talked about it wont go away...you need to sit down with an unbiased 3rd party and just talk things out