I have been dating my now husband for four years, married since Nov 07. We've had some rough times lately, and are currently separated. We've been working on our marriage and he's agreed to see a marriage counselor. A couple nights ago I went over to our house. It was the first night I had stayed there since the first of May. We stayed up talking til 4am. It was at this time that he told me he's bi, and he has had experiences with men. He said he's been with a "few" men (he wouldn't give me an exact number), all prior to our relationship. He swears he has not cheated on me with a man or woman. He said he had an HIV test not too long after we got together.

I'm not incredibly upset by the fact that he is telling me he's bi. There's a part of me that believes he wants to end the marriage and he thought that by telling me this, I would leave. I'm not a naive person in denial however. Before we got together we discussed how many partners we'd had and he said less than 10. I've not asked him again since he told me he's bi, so I don't know if his male partners were included in that count.

Any porn he gets is always male and female. He does not frequent strip clubs, and in the 4 years we've been together he's went twice, both times within the last 3 months. I can't help but think that he's pulling away from our marriage (which he's told me he's too young to be tied down.. blah blah....) and went to an extreme to try and push me away even more. My response was one of complete acceptance. I told him I didn't care, as long as he never cheats on me. He said he can be very happy with me, once we get our marital problems worked out.

After reading posts on here, I find that some say bis are attracted to one sex more than the other. I asked him if he was bi or gay.. and he said... "we have great sex don't we?" He has asked for anal sex in the past. We tried it, I hated it. He has brought it up in a lighthearted manner since, but only occasionally, and in a way I felt like he was testing the waters without pushing the issue. I know that anal sex alone is not an indicator of being bi or gay, but after he told me he's bi, I really started to think about it.

Are there any bis on this forum that are happily married and stay loyal? I'm ok with staying married for all eternity, I just don't want to be made a fool when I find out in 5 years he's had a bf or 2 on the side. I just can't handle cheating.