I need some advice. I got married to the love of my life a year ago and a few weeks ago I walked in on my husband and saw something on the computer and asked him what it was, he panicked and shut the computer down. After a huge argument he said he was looking at porn and crashed his computer because he knew I’d be upset. We had our 1st proper massive fight in the whole 5 years we have been together and he promised he would never hurt me again and that I am his rock, his best friend, his soul mate and the love of his life and he was being inconsiderate of my feelings .But Something just wasn’t feeling right in my mind and I knew he was lying about what he had been doing. Anyway to cut the story short I managed to reset a password to an email account I had found but never expected to find that he was registered to 3 online dating chat sites (which he had set up 1 month before we got married) He had even set his profile as single and even posted a picture of himself to someone (not a rude one but a photo all the same). He had lots of emails from people but hadn’t ever opened any of them other than the odd one to accept a friend or request a friend. When I confronted him he told me he had been really stupid and never thought about what he was risking. He works 14 hour days He works full time and then comes home to work on his business which he hopes to make a success for us so we can have the life we have always talked and dreamed about. He says he only ever went on a couple of times when he had had an awful day and that it made him feel better to exaggerate his life -a nice car, big house etc. He says he never talked dirty and at the most a bit flirty (which I find hard to believe on an online dating site) and he was never turned on by anyone. It’s now been a week and we have talked and cried so much but I feel so sick inside that I can’t eat, sleep or work and am having suicidal thoughts. He is extremely sorry and I know he loves me but I feel like although he has not physically cheated on me he has mentally. He is everything to me, my best friend, my husband, my life. I feel cheated. He has been throwing up, not eating etc. and is desperate to make things work. He says he will do anything to show me that I’m everything to him. He says he hasn’t been on since I nearly caught him (when he crashed the computer)and that he was never going to again but all I think is what about if I hadn’t caught him, in 10 years time he could still be doing it. He shut down all 3 profiles and his email account in front of me. But when I read other peoples experiences of similar things online, they all say if men do that they can never be trusted and you should end things. Please help...