My partner and I live together - we have for a few years now. At 41, I can honestly say I have never been so in love with someone in my entire life. In so many ways he makes my life so much better than I ever expected it could be.
This past weekend, my laptop computer died. I work from home and am self-employed, so his was the only other computer in the house and he offered it to me. I even used a different browser (by my choice) so I wouldn't affect how he has things set up and created a folder on the desktop for myself so I wouldn't have to go snooping through his computer to find files as I downloaded them.
Today, as I was working, I misspelled the URL I was looking for and ended up on a website called Fling and it automatically logged me into the site on his account. What are the freaking odds?!
The profile was basically empty (no personal details) except it said that he was "seeking: Women interested in: Experimenting, Threesomes+, Friends with Benefits, Online Flirting, Open To Relationship". The only other detail on the profile was his adult sons age rather than his own age (no, the son does not have access to his computer, so it's not his profile). The profile name was his sons initials so this is not a coincidence that the site had me already logged in.
I'm exceedingly open-minded, but he's never talked to me about any of this. I walked in on him once looking at porn and he reacted like he'd been "caught". We've watched porn together once or twice in the past so he knows I don't mind it, but this was different. He acted CAUGHT. And, now this. An account on a "Fling" site with women sending him their nude photos and offering to meet up with him. This is different. The account was set up a couple weeks or more after I walked in on him watching videos.
A little over a year ago, he was contacted by an old girlfriend on Facebook. His reaction to that situation was a big problem for us. He basically hid it until I discovered what was happening. He cut off contact with her once I told him how upsetting it was to me. It was upsetting because there had been some communication between them about "unresolved" feelings, etc. and what should be done about those feelings.
I've read all of the answers to the original question in this thread. I love this man with every fibre of my being. This is twice now that my faith has been tested. I'm not entirely sure what I should do. Maybe I should just send him a link to this thread directing him to read all the way down to this UnhappyGirl's response and then we can discuss things.