|I finally confirmed it...I''ve had my suspicions throughout the last year or so. We''ve been together for six years and married for over 4. I first had my concerns a few months ago when I came across some gay porn on his computer. I did confront him about and he shared with me that a long time ago he thought he may have some gay tendencies but that was only something he occasionally liked to look at. I let it go...but would sometimes look at his browser history to see what he was looking at.
Then, on Friday, he left 2 tabs open...one for an email address I had never seen and another for men to men encounters on craigslist. I found a way to get into the email address and discovered emails from the last 4 years! It turns out he has been having sex with men for years! It''s not something he does "all the time" but a need or desire he has every couple of months. It started out with a curiosity because he was lonely and thought that might be him. I am so angry and hurt! I know he loves me, we have a terrific marriage but I don''t know how I will ever be able to trust him again. We have talked about it and I want to be here for him. I am even willing to try new things with him in order to help fulfill this need he has. I just don''t know how he will be able to change something that he has been doing for the last 10 years.
|Why does it upset you more that he''s bisexual than the fact that he''s cheating on you? What if there were emails in that account from women he had cheated on you with? I never understand why a woman would tollerate infidelity, especially when it''s very obviously something he worked towards.
It is your marriage. I won''t suffer if it thrives or perishes. But if it troubles me this much maybe you should ask why you''re ok with it.
The reason why it upsets her the most is the fact that she though that she married a man who will not have sex with other men, who is not sexually turned on by other men,who is a normal man with normal wants, but instead; she married someone/man woman or both; whatever he-she may be, who is having sex with both/ man & woman, and she wants to be married to a real man which is normal! Had she known he was that way, she would never have married him! She will not be able to trust him to even go into the man''''s restrooms when they are out in fear that he may cheat on her before he comes out!
She doesn''''t have the tool that he wants (a penis) and that is enough to make any woman jealous when she know that she doesn''''t have the right tool, and is not measuring up to the compitition!