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January 25th, 2012
I need your advise/ help please.

I am 27 and my husband is 30. We have been married for last 4 months now, everytime we have sex he cums within minutes. its good, but i never reach orgasm. the longest weve ever been having sex is prob just less than 10 minutes!!! i want him to go longer. last time we had sex he came just under 2 minutes or so, and claimed its cos im 'just too good' but i dont believe him.. is it really cos im 'just too good' or does he have something wrong with him? i heard that guys who pre ejaculate usually hav a lack of confidence in the bedroom department, which may be true but i duno whether that is it! I just really wanna know why he does it, and want we can do together to keep him going longer......once he goes in he cant stay there for more than 2 mins...i dont know why.......one of my close friend told me that her hubby penetrates her everyday for almost 15 mins and its normal...she says it should be more than 10 mins of continuous penetration else he has problem.I have never been with any other man in my life so i am not sure for this....what should i do???Is my husband having any medical problem???plss guide me.....
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pokealoke
replied January 26th, 2012
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He is probably sincere when he says your just too good. The higher the excitement, the quicker the orgasm. One suggestion is to try to have sex again shortly after the first round when he climaxes fast. Maybe within a couple of hours. That gives him enough time to charge his man batteries a little, but not fully. A lot of times for men, the second orgasm in a short span is harder to reach.

Ten minutes of penetration is not that bad at all. Personally, I like to go for a long time, but my wife is the one that wants to hurry and have an orgasm. So I have compromised with her, which ends up being about 10 minutes.
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ndisthebest
replied January 26th, 2012
Your friends either sounds like a doctor or an idiot. What type of sex do you do personally. Do you just go vaginal? Because you can do oral to keep his johnson awake for round 2. And round 2 is usually harder to climax. On my first round I cum in 5 minutes but in round 2 I can keep going for 2 hours because it is hard for me to reach climax.
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Mentosa
replied January 27th, 2012
Perhaps both of you can have foreplay before penetration. This will make you excited and when the time comes to have penetration both of you can have orgasm.
As 'pokealoke' suggested, have a second round, I am sure your husband will last longer.
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Aldo_dak
replied February 4th, 2012
Niharika_sen : you have some solutions which are not medical ,i would say at first that your husband's penis head is very sensitive and when there is excitement he just ejaculate quickly.
1- Try before penetration ,to let him get you high by different methods.
2- Let him wear a condom. A condom reduce sensitivity for sure.
3- when he ejaculates the first time, wait from 20-30 if you still want to have orgasm, and try to turn him on again,for sure the second round he will last more.
but its your job to turn him on.
4-if you are very honest with him and all the previous stuff didnt work.Let him masturbate before having sex.
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pulse27
replied May 16th, 2012
there are condoms made for extra sensitive men. i think they are called ULTRASENSITIVE by Trojan...try those, they worked for us.
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jojo228
replied May 16th, 2012
Try the new drug Priligy (Generic Name:Dapoxetine) which
is generally can make the man last 3 times long (the 60 mg pill).

Your hubby has to take the drug one hour before sex to have the Priligy fully effective.

Give it a try.
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delight4
replied June 30th, 2012
If some one can hold for two minutes you cannot term it quick ejaculation. The problem to be tackled is you do not get orgasam when he ejaculates and once he ejaculates he cannot pound.
Let him have foreplay with you, like fingering, licking and once you are aroused only he penetrates. Once penetrate make gyrating movement first so that clit is rubbed(without moving up &down). Once you are about to get orgasam he can thrust. It takes time to practice and get result.
Try woman on top position. Here you can control. Even if he ejaculates you can continue rubbing clit till you get orgasam.
You should not under pressure to get orgasam. It will have negetive effect.
Enjoy oral. Share the experience
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delight4
replied June 30th, 2012
If some one can hold for two minutes you cannot term it quick ejaculation. The problem to be tackled is you do not get orgasam when he ejaculates and once he ejaculates he cannot pound.
Let him have foreplay with you, like fingering, licking and once you are aroused only he penetrates. Once penetrate make gyrating movement first so that clit is rubbed(without moving up &down). Once you are about to get orgasam he can thrust. It takes time to practice and get result.
Try woman on top position. Here you can control. Even if he ejaculates you can continue rubbing clit till you get orgasam.
You should not under pressure to get orgasam. It will have negetive effect.
Enjoy oral.
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Wheelieguy
replied July 1st, 2012
Here is a routine that might work for you guys. When having sex and he feels like ejaculating, stop let the sensation die down a moment and then continue. The release will be delayed and the orgasm (for him and possibly you) will be more intense and the sex will last longer. Another tactic is to do like they did in the movie There's Something About Mary, to have a little pre sex activity, if you know what I mean, will make him last longer during a sexual encounter, either masturbation or oral sex and he ejaculates. There might be a time of regeneration necessary, but he should be able to do it. There are also desensitizing creams that might also delay ejaculation, but that might not be as enjoyable. See if that works.
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thecoach
replied March 31st, 2013
ask him to give you oral before, this will give you time to reach orgasm before he penetrates you, then delay the missionary position by using less sensitive position for him , eg woman on top where you will be the one dictating the orgasm process and therefore having more time for you to reach a 2nd orgasm . its more about changing the routines . let us know how it went.
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