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I need your advise/ help please.

I am 27 and my husband is 30. We have been married for last 4 months now, everytime we have sex he cums within minutes. its good, but i never reach orgasm. the longest weve ever been having sex is prob just less than 10 minutes!!! i want him to go longer. last time we had sex he came just under 2 minutes or so, and claimed its cos im 'just too good' but i dont believe him.. is it really cos im 'just too good' or does he have something wrong with him? i heard that guys who pre ejaculate usually hav a lack of confidence in the bedroom department, which may be true but i duno whether that is it! I just really wanna know why he does it, and want we can do together to keep him going longer......once he goes in he cant stay there for more than 2 mins...i dont know why.......one of my close friend told me that her hubby penetrates her everyday for almost 15 mins and its normal...she says it should be more than 10 mins of continuous penetration else he has problem.I have never been with any other man in my life so i am not sure for this....what should i do???Is my husband having any medical problem???plss guide me.....
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First Helper Niharika_sen
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replied January 26th, 2012
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He is probably sincere when he says your just too good. The higher the excitement, the quicker the orgasm. One suggestion is to try to have sex again shortly after the first round when he climaxes fast. Maybe within a couple of hours. That gives him enough time to charge his man batteries a little, but not fully. A lot of times for men, the second orgasm in a short span is harder to reach.

Ten minutes of penetration is not that bad at all. Personally, I like to go for a long time, but my wife is the one that wants to hurry and have an orgasm. So I have compromised with her, which ends up being about 10 minutes.
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replied January 26th, 2012
Your friends either sounds like a doctor or an idiot. What type of sex do you do personally. Do you just go vaginal? Because you can do oral to keep his johnson awake for round 2. And round 2 is usually harder to climax. On my first round I cum in 5 minutes but in round 2 I can keep going for 2 hours because it is hard for me to reach climax.
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replied January 27th, 2012
Perhaps both of you can have foreplay before penetration. This will make you excited and when the time comes to have penetration both of you can have orgasm.
As 'pokealoke' suggested, have a second round, I am sure your husband will last longer.
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replied February 4th, 2012
Niharika_sen : you have some solutions which are not medical ,i would say at first that your husband's penis head is very sensitive and when there is excitement he just ejaculate quickly.
1- Try before penetration ,to let him get you high by different methods.
2- Let him wear a condom. A condom reduce sensitivity for sure.
3- when he ejaculates the first time, wait from 20-30 if you still want to have orgasm, and try to turn him on again,for sure the second round he will last more.
but its your job to turn him on.
4-if you are very honest with him and all the previous stuff didnt work.Let him masturbate before having sex.
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replied May 16th, 2012
there are condoms made for extra sensitive men. i think they are called ULTRASENSITIVE by Trojan...try those, they worked for us.
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replied May 16th, 2012
Try the new drug Priligy (Generic Name:Dapoxetine) which
is generally can make the man last 3 times long (the 60 mg pill).

Your hubby has to take the drug one hour before sex to have the Priligy fully effective.

Give it a try.
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replied June 30th, 2012
If some one can hold for two minutes you cannot term it quick ejaculation. The problem to be tackled is you do not get orgasam when he ejaculates and once he ejaculates he cannot pound.
Let him have foreplay with you, like fingering, licking and once you are aroused only he penetrates. Once penetrate make gyrating movement first so that clit is rubbed(without moving up &down). Once you are about to get orgasam he can thrust. It takes time to practice and get result.
Try woman on top position. Here you can control. Even if he ejaculates you can continue rubbing clit till you get orgasam.
You should not under pressure to get orgasam. It will have negetive effect.
Enjoy oral. Share the experience
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replied June 30th, 2012
If some one can hold for two minutes you cannot term it quick ejaculation. The problem to be tackled is you do not get orgasam when he ejaculates and once he ejaculates he cannot pound.
Let him have foreplay with you, like fingering, licking and once you are aroused only he penetrates. Once penetrate make gyrating movement first so that clit is rubbed(without moving up &down). Once you are about to get orgasam he can thrust. It takes time to practice and get result.
Try woman on top position. Here you can control. Even if he ejaculates you can continue rubbing clit till you get orgasam.
You should not under pressure to get orgasam. It will have negetive effect.
Enjoy oral.
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replied July 1st, 2012
Here is a routine that might work for you guys. When having sex and he feels like ejaculating, stop let the sensation die down a moment and then continue. The release will be delayed and the orgasm (for him and possibly you) will be more intense and the sex will last longer. Another tactic is to do like they did in the movie There's Something About Mary, to have a little pre sex activity, if you know what I mean, will make him last longer during a sexual encounter, either masturbation or oral sex and he ejaculates. There might be a time of regeneration necessary, but he should be able to do it. There are also desensitizing creams that might also delay ejaculation, but that might not be as enjoyable. See if that works.
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replied March 31st, 2013
ask him to give you oral before, this will give you time to reach orgasm before he penetrates you, then delay the missionary position by using less sensitive position for him , eg woman on top where you will be the one dictating the orgasm process and therefore having more time for you to reach a 2nd orgasm . its more about changing the routines . let us know how it went.
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replied August 8th, 2013
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I need help plz..
My name is Santhosh, I am 29 years old, not marred, My problem is sperm quickly coming with in 30 sec. What will I do? Plz I need a solution.
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replied August 8th, 2013
Do you mean you only last 30 sec.

That's rough man. I suggest don't think about cumming keep it at the back of your mind focus on her look at her maybe make out with her position pending.
But just keep pumping and just don't think about cumming think about how nice it feels.
You may also want to try oral stimulate her g-spot so that she won't last as long so that you will both get off.
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replied August 8th, 2013
I hope you take my advice I am 17, but my gf and i had a similar problem but it was her who took too long to cum. A good idea would be to get him to please you in other ways at first. Until you start to cum if he only last a few min as soon as you start to cum he must penetrate you. But not any earlier or he may cum too soon. Well ur cumming he will be pumping away and he will finish roughly the same time as you finish cumming. Because women's orgasums last longer.

Hope that helped
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replied October 30th, 2013
By simply changing sexual positions can make a man last longer. For example, you start with the woman on top (cow girl position) , later change to the Doggie style (rear entry) and finally the man on top position which myself and my gf found very satisfying (embracing each other closely and deep penetration when reaching climax).
Using one position only particularly the man the top position makes the man comes very quickly because the simulation to the penis is too intense for the man in this position.
Changing positions have the positive effects of cooling off
the man's level of sexual excitement and therefore he can last
longer. This simple method works for me.
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replied November 18th, 2013
Premature ejaculation may be an issue of low serotonin
Endurance in men is known to be increased with the use of certain medications such as SSRI's (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors. Results in elevated levels of serotonin). Men that have had several alcoholic beverages will also last longer(the short term effect of ethanol is to raise serotonin levels). The early ejaculation drug Dapoxetine is an SSRI. Common theme is that elevated serotonin should result in longer endurance in bed. The amino acid tryptophan and downstream metabolite 5 HTP (5 hydroxytryptophan) are converted in the body to serotonin. Both can be found in vitamin and natural health shops. Trying some amino acid supplementation may be of help. Also- use of lights (blue light spectrum. You can get LED lights strong in this spectrum) will reduce the conversion of serotonin to melatonin in the pineal (serotonin should be boosted). Use of such lighting before the even may also help. As always- if using supplements, ask the advise of your physician about safety. Supplements that are safe for some may not be for individuals with certain conditions.
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replied November 26th, 2013
PE could actually be stress induced! If you really feel that it is a huge problem in your relationship, your husband can try to go for a hormones imbalance check-up.

The GP can prescribe meds that can regulate the hormone levels which will really help with the condition. Given that this is your husband's underlying problem of course. I'm just speaking from my personal experience, but going to a clinic definitely helps.
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replied December 1st, 2013
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NO man should ever have an orgasm before his female partner. I for many years had a problem with pre mature ejaculation. However Never did I have an orgasm before my wife did.
There are many ways to pleasure the wife .
Many men have watched way too many porn movies and think that actual sex relations with their wife is to be like it is in porn movies.They have to immediatly enter her and start 'pounding' .
I went from orgasms lasting a few mins to remaining inside my wife for up to 2 hours at a time.
Most men that have a problem with pre mature ejaculation are low on basic vitamins and minerals. Your husband should start taking;
50 mg chelated zinc 2 x a day.
100 mg vitamin B-6
200 mg Selenium
250 mg magnesium oxide.
In addition get a bottle of ancient minerals magnesium lotion. this can be applied to his penis,massage it in
and allow it to remain on his penis especially the on the head.This will help to de sensitize the penis.
allow it to stay on for 2o mins. then be sure to clean the penis with warm water and soap before sex.
Your intimate time,go slow. he should pleasure you first, gently pleasure your nipples,softly start to gently pleasure your vaginal area. the clitoris should never be pleasured roughly.my wife has always told me that I have the softest touch. The clitoris should be very slowly and lightly pleasured.
When you can get to the point to where you make love with each other,not so you can have an orgasm but so the two of you can be 'connected' together, then you both will have an intimacy together most couples have never experienced.
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replied June 11th, 2014
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Niharika, I saw someone had written about Dapoxetine.
It really works, I regularly take some pills for ED and some work, some don't.
Of course, not all of them, but still
Cialis, for example, didn't work, but Dapoxetine is a good one.

Good luck)
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replied June 11th, 2014
Niharika,
I have suffered from ED and took all the pills and while they helped they did not deal with underlying problem. The problem with relying on medication is that there are always side effects and they tend to deal with symptoms without dealing with the underlying problem.
After doing some research I worked on both kegels and reverse kegels (lots of examples on the internet). I also bought an Aneros prostate massager which I use to practice kegels and get the side benefit of massaging my prostate which can be pleasurable in its own right. After three months I find I am able to control myself much better and have sex without needing my Cialis.
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replied September 27th, 2014
i come so fast too
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