hi inessa,

15 years is a long time. has he ever made promises or attempts to stop?

alcoholism is a complex disease that unfortunately involves the entire family. there are excellent support groups for family members of alcoholics. millions of people have gone through what you are going through and have found help

the first thing i would recommend is to educate yourself about the disease of alcoholism so you can better understand what you are up against.

check this site out as a starting point
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

feel free to write back anytime

sincerely,
daniel

does your husband drink every night or day?

Often members of the family end up getting sicker than the alcoholic. Alanon helps individulas to take care of themselves. You cannot change him if he is not ready but you can find freedom for yourself through alanon

inessa, what i would do, is make him choose. either u and the kids, or the booze. if he cares about you and the kids, then he will stop drinking.

yeh that's a good point Elizabeth i agree Jenny

i know its going to be hard on you to do that, but a time comes where u have to try and make him realized whats important to him.

Call Alanon they are listed in phone book also on internet. Getting connected with women who have the same experiences as you helps.